Just curious. Do any of you go through this as well?
While I am at it today... :?
I've got yet another "beef" with DH. Please understand how I am feeling too and look at all of the details. I'm not just trying to be a b*tch here, this really hurts me and it does not seem to ever let up.
We *both* work weekly and we *both* have the weekends off, however, DH ONLY wants to go out and do things when SD6 is here. Not on *our* days together. When it comes to our time together, he manages to have some major complaint about his fatigue level/ health and only wants to lay around the house all day and do nothing. For months and months, I would have to be the one who asked "him" to go out anywhere and it usually was kind of "tightwadish." As in, having a few drinks and him watching me like I was going to go off and screw some random guy, and I never have!? :O So, that just became not cool, to say the least. I had raised my daughter and had some freedom again and yes, wanted to "go out" after 18 years of my life raising a child. DH did not have his 1st until he was 36 years old. That means he had 20 years of freedom before...but he only had SD6 on occasion, so it seemed at first that we could make it all work out, and it did for awhile. What a joke. We used to do random things on almost a nightly basis the first year...
Lately, (as in the last 6 months) I can't get him anywhere out with me alone. I'm tired of asking him too. Why is it then that he somehow "magically" comes back to life when SD6 is over and has daily activities on a 24/7 basis, planned out for her? What happened to "us?" Honestly, I do and don't care anymore. It's great that he wants to do so, so much with his daughter but it really hurts that I do not seem to "get him going" as well. Even a weeknight for god's sake, you know? Dinner, something maybe? I know he is not going to go out clubing and dancing with me but "something" would be nice on occasion? I have kept my mouth shut just like a "good little step mom" }:) should because he works all week. Well, so do I! I just want to live a little you know? My idea of fun is not sitting around and listening to music choice and Tivo. He is 42!!!
My question is: Have any of you gone through this with your SO as well and what is the deal?
Thanks from the "hormonal" one in advance~
That's another thing, I only have months till baby comes and it would be nice to enjoy "couple time" while we can, you know?
Oh! How I love the way you
Oh! How I love the way you think! }:)
You know, I might just actually try that- he has a major phobia about needles!
Kudos to you-BTW
We have been in ruts like
We have been in ruts like this before. The first 2 years were a whirlwind of dates and minibreaks but since then we have had bouts of not going out much, and now we have DD3 and DS1 and DH works long hours it doesn't make it easy to get out. DH is naturally more a homebody than me and doesn't feel the same need for friends and socialising and entertainment. Things I have done in the past include:
1. Leading by example and booking a few night out - a meal out or a night at a comedy club, or cinema tickets. In the past this has bourne fruit as DH has realised he actually likes going out every now and again and should make some effort himself
2. Leaving DH at home and going out with my friends. I like going out, it doesn't need to be with DH, I treasure my drinks and meals out with friends and he gets a happier more relaxed wife when I come home
3. Buying multi-vitamins - these had a noticeable effect of his energy levels!