Son-In-Law Heard a Twit Phone Call and Called DD and I to Let Us Know - Disturbing
I am with DD out house hunting in another part of the country. Seems Twit called and left a message on the answering machine (she had to call several times so she could get it all on as the message area is just so long). What Son-in-Law heard disturbed him so he called us on the QT. From now on I will refer to my daughter's hubby as SIL.
First, DH never responded to her calls, tears and pleas, but he did listen to them while SIL was there.
Remember that 90+ old man who Twit claimed was hitting on her sexual? You know, the guy with the oxygen etc. al. Well, seems he passed away and Twit is having a conniption because she thought she had ingrated herself with this old man (she use to invite him to holiday dinners, over for dinner etc. even while she was telling DH that he was hitting on her and making her "uncomfortable", and she is upset because he left his house and property to the Salvation Army! Twit apparently said that after all she had done for him SHE should have been the receipient, (put crying jag in here) and that now the Salvation Army is going to make it into a half-way house and her property values are going to go down! And, (this SIL actually had to tell us) that she wasted her time going to his wake and funeral as she didn't get his property!
DD and I are just stunned, as was SIL by this. Funny, she has nothing to do with her neighbors but only this old man whom she was looking for something from.
I asked SIL if DH said anything and he said that after listening DH just deleted the messages while shaking his head.
After hearing this, I started to cry because, as I told DD, 4 years ago Twit sat in my living room crying and bawling because she was so afraid that my DD was going to inherit MY things and she would be left out! She was looking for me to tell her that she was going to get something and that didn't happen. Do you see the pattern here?
Man, I am so glad I am out house hunting because I have no doubt that if I stayed in that area and got sick, Twit would put a pillow over my face to help me along.
DH doesn't know that SIL gave us the heads up on this.
Not that it matters, but the Salvation Army wouldn't make a two-bedroom manufactured home into a half way house; my guess is that they will just sell it and take the man's personal possessions to one of their stores. That half way stuff is just another Twit over-reaction on how she is once again being wronged after going out of her way for this old man.
Sorry friends, I would give my eyeteeth to just have attitude problems with this Twit, but it is things like this that scare the begesus out of me.
Boy, this latest makes me
Boy, this latest makes me feel like I don't even want to go back there. As I have said many a time, Twit scares me. Not many people, if any, have scared me as she does. Here I am, safe in another state for now and I am crying, still crying, after DD held me and assured me she would let nothing happen to DH and I.
I don't understand where
:jawdrop:
I don't understand where people get the idea that they are entitled to inherit anything from anyone. It is sickening. At least he got to have some nice dinners I suppose and didn't get fooled into leaving her anything.
You know, he never came to
You know, he never came to many of her dinners. The last one we were at, the Thanksgiving she walked out on us before the dinner was even over to go SHOPPING she claimed she invited him but he didn't come.
The man was just a nice old man. I bet he had her number....being old doesn't mean one is stupid.
"She's worried her property
"She's worried her property values are going to go down and she lives next door to a manufactured home already?"
It's across the street kitty corner from her. There is a whole row of them and some real "interesting" people that live there. She bought her house before they were there which dropped the value of her property the day they started to appear. Another drop is that the town lost its bank and post office last year and the local school two years ago.
That is truly scary. I hope
That is truly scary. I hope she didn't put something in his food to help him along
Oh barf. This girl is
Oh barf. This girl is somethin else.
Some ppl thinks they are
Some ppl thinks they are entitled of everything and my SD is one of them. I have to separate everything and constantly watching my back and my boy...I breath a little easy now since I ban her from coming to my house.
A/
Back for a break from house
Back for a break from house hunting. DH called and told me about the Twit messages, he, too, was disturbed especially by her last comment - about wasting her time going to his wake and funeral as there was nothing in it for her. Oh, I so wanted to say that is how she is, but I held my tongue.
I did ask why she even thought he should be his beneficiary.
I was recalling how he reacted those years back when she was in my living room crying, bawling because she was afraid my DD was going to inherit everything. When I mentioned it to DH back then he poo-pooed me, that it was nothing to be concerned about. Thank heaven for a good pre-nup and a good lawyer.
Twit is really showing her
Twit is really showing her NPD style, is't she? I have a Sister-in-law who is a lot like Twit, not as bad, but still a narcissist. She did the same thing - got really miffed because her neighbor died, left her nothing and SIL "had been SOOOO good to her!"
Tell her you have something 'special' you are leaving her when you pass on. Can you just see the excitement in her eyes as she unwraps the package to find a used ash tray? LOL Just kidding.
It will really be great if you find a house soon and get out of Twitville. Good luck.
Yes Sandye - I'm sorry, but I
Yes Sandye - I'm sorry, but I just want to cry. All this Twit nonsense has been wearing me down.
I deal with one issue and get it behind me, but I always always feel I have to be alert, on guard, ready for the next attack. This can be stressful as one never knows what it is going to be or where she is going to come out of.
DH assured me he is not calling her back about anything.
SIL asked DD if this type of stuff goes on all the time and she told him yes. SIL says he can see that it affects my DH too; said his hands were shaking as he listened to the Twit messages.
I was wondering what SIL's
I was wondering what SIL's reaction was to all this. Do you think he'll try to rein in Twit now? I've been following your story from the beginning and always felt that he's failed everyone by not addressing Twit's issues. He should have forced her to seek treatment decades ago, if only to give their sons a chance for a decent childhood.
Twit's husband does try to
Twit's husband does try to rein her in but I think he has learned that it is just easier to let her go. He puts in mega hours at his job and even goes in on Saturdays and some Sundays. and he is salaried not hourly so that speaks volumes.
Twit has told me that her husband's best friend, navy buddy, wife won't have her around. She is not welcome at their house....Twit's husband is, but not Twit. When I asked, as any one would since she brought it up, why that was; Twit claims not to know. You bet she knows and it must be something pretty bad if Twit isn't saying because she brags about most mean things she does.
Sandye says: "Tell her you
Sandye says: "Tell her you have something 'special' you are leaving her when you pass on. Can you just see the excitement in her eyes as she unwraps the package to find a used ash tray? LOL Just kidding."
Even better! I should wrap up one of those cloisonné urns from Bates Casket Co. that DH accidentally bought - leave all the paperwork in it telling what it is for (ashes) and give it to her. Let her know what it feels like when someone is always talking about my demise and what she is expecting to get. }:) Maybe I will break my rule about giving anything to her and give this to her for Christmas. Oh, forgive me....I am feeling so wicked today; but in this instance it feels good.
AND, when she sqwaks after finding out what it is just nicely tell her, as she told me when she gave me the cheap ashtray, etc., that it is THE thought that counts
I love this idea!
I love this idea!
Me too!
Me too!
Wow. Sickening for sure. AND
Wow. Sickening for sure. AND she once sat you down crying since she was worried you would give your stuff to your own child. WOW :jawdrop:
You should of told her - no, I am going to give you something. My snot rags. I'll start saving them for you since your such a snot!
Yep, she did that. Crying
Yep, she did that. Crying and boo hoo hooing to beat the band....what a waterfall. Wanted to know what she was getting - basically how much money she could expect when we passed and other personal items of mine which were my Mother's and Grandmothers!
I couldn't believe what I was hearing!
luvmypuppy -That scares me,
luvmypuppy -That scares me, never thought of that. She probably has one out on me no doubt.
I worked in the life
I worked in the life insurance field for over 20 years. She can not get life insurance on you without your signature. So please relax there as you have enough to deal with when it comes to ms crazy twit.
I would be more concerned with her thinking or knowing she will inherit anything. May have been why she was sneaking around trying to get into your home some time back. She may have been looking for beneficiary info on policies, wills, trusts, etc. Just a thought.
Take care
People get life insurance on
People get life insurance on themselves, naming someone as beneficiary. She can't get a life insurance policy on YOU, at least not without your consent and participation. Even then, she would need to prove "insurable interest", why your death would adversely affect her life financially (like if you supported her financially).
very true!!!!!!!
very true!!!!!!!
WOW. and she is not
WOW. and she is not embarrassed to open her mouth and say she is mad some random old man didn't leave her his property? This is one cray cray woman. She might have even poisoned him. Watch your back with this one.
Honestly, I shouldn't be
Honestly, I shouldn't be surprised by this latest Twit outburst either. Twit has never, to my knowledge, done anything for any one without there being something in it for her....money, prestige, looking good, etc.
Me, I am just here thinking about all the strange Twit nonsense I have put up with over the past 4 years. The relief is in knowing that we are getting the heck out of Twitville soon.
She is a piece of work for
She is a piece of work for sure! Does she not even think how it sounds to complain about a random old man's property NOT being left to her?
Wonder what her IQ is.
My OSD is squirming too as she is worried about her inheritance too - gag. I guess her plot to break us up didn't work (yet) and if DH goes first, she is worried she will end up with nothing.
We are not wealthy so any assets we have will be needed for the remaining spouse to maintain a comfortable lifestyle in old age. There isn't a bunch of extra cash laying around to leave for SD to buy a new car or house with LOL.
It is a troubling scenario when you know your SD is basically waiting to you to die (and me too).
Take care and hope you move away real soon.
I told my DH that if he goes
I told my DH that if he goes first (he is 20 years older than me) that I can expect his bitch daughter will be on our doorstep while his body is still warm, demanding that she gets the house, savings, property, etc. He agrees with me. We need to have a visit to an attorney soon even though my DH is in good health.
I can see my SD demanding that I "get out of her daddy's house"
Since she told my DH off a couple of years ago and has had no contact, no apology and said terrible things about DH, my children and myself, she will be getting $1 when we die. I suggest you leave the same for twit. Oh yeah, along with the ashtray and dirty napkins.
I would be appalled if one of my kids said that they wasted time at an old mans funeral because they didn't get anything. Twits behavior is disgusting, deplorable, disturbing and inexcusable. What a horrible person she is. I used to think she was just crazy and mean; now I know she is truly as evil as they come.
Good luck house hunting and keep us posted. We are all rooting for you to get the hell out of there.
Hey, does this loon know you're moving yet? Has she called demanding to know why your DH is there with SIL? DH has been ignoring her calls for a long time now. I'm surprised she hasn't shown up on your doorstep. Please, please watch your back. Have you ever seen that show "Snapped"? One must be careful with these types of narcissistic wack-a-doodles.
Hi Amber - You are smart
Hi Amber - You are smart about leaving his daughter $1.00 in the will because if she is totally cut out she can contest it. Also, make sure to have a statement put in that your husband has a daughter, name, and she is intentionally being left out as well as a clause that anyone that contests the will gets nadda. But a good attorney will know what to do.
You need to read my earlier post here about gifting Twit with one of those funeral urns DH accidentally bought....the ones with the Bates Casket Co. paperwork still in them since they were brand new. And when she starts up after finding out what it is, just remind her that it is THE THOUGHT that counts. Heck, I think I will just send it to her regardless and let her know what it feels like when someone talks about your demise etc. Oh, I felt so wicked thinking that, but DD and I roared with laughter and it felt so good. After all, I am not a candidate for sainthood
DH got them as a mistake, but maybe, just maybe it was fate that he got them, just for this purpose 
Just kidding about that.
No DH hasn't called her back on any of these calls. So far she has no idea we are moving from her grip and I want to keep it that way.
And, yes, I do expect her to show up and get more aggressive about things. That is why I never feel I can relax....I just don't know what she is up to next. Every time I think I have experienced it all she comes up with something new and creative....ugh.
I have never, in my long life, come across anyone or anything like Twit. And, like you, neither I, DD or her husband could understand why she thought this old neighbor owed her anything of his.
Amber is bang on.
Amber is bang on.