SKIDS and picking up/dropping off and Scheduling????????
Ok so I am wondering how everyone deals with the small detail of picking up and dropping of the Skids. Also, how do you schedule who has them?
In all of the annoying things going on it is yet another details that often drives me crazy. My DH is ALWAYS the one to pick up and drop off his daughter which used to drive me CRAZY because the ex and her family ALWAYS invite him inside to have a glass of water or eat lunch or wait while the daughter takes a bath or talk to her brother etc etc etc. Of course I usually go with so I dont sit at home wondering what he is doing there but I have spoken to him a LOT about it and he is getting better at being quick. Of course today when DH said he was going to ask BM to pick her up I opposed because frankly I dont want her in our house!!
Also there are absolutley no schedule for who has his daughter EVER, they always ask her who she wants to stay with and wherever she wants they let her go there. She is 5 so I think that is ridiculous and bad for her. This part doesnt bother me for the daughter herself, I enjoy her company usually, but I HATE how the BM and my DH are constantly calling each other to figure out who has the daughter where she will sleep who will take her to school, etc etc. When I brought this up to DH he brought up the culture factor again and said this is how they do it in Brazil. So I'm wondering..
How do you guys do these two things
I see both sides here and not
I see both sides here and not sure how to help you. Honestly if you read everyone's story on this site you will see that 99% of step parents have issues because the custodial parent controls everything or hates the other parent. The situation you describe seems to show the child that although parents aren't together, we all love and respect each other. It's a wonderful situation because obviously the BM's family include you and show this young girl acceptance and respect of you.
The flip side, personally it would drive me crazy the waiting. They should set a time, usually receiving parent picks up and still be nice to each other but quickly
Yes I do get what you say but
Yes I do get what you say but there are other factors ( you can read my first blog post if u want to see them) And yes I agree with the nice or cordial and QUICKLY.
The no schedule thing would
The no schedule thing would drive me crazy! I would think they would want a little more structure for their daughter and for themselves.
Per the court order, we had the standard every other weekend (except when SD cancelled). My husband always picked up and dropped off but he and BM were not on good terms so he never went in. He talked to BM as little as possible and not at all now that SD is 21.
"Per the court order, we had
"Per the court order, we had the standard every other weekend (except when SD cancelled). My husband always picked up and dropped off but he and BM were not on good terms so he never went in. He talked to BM as little as possible and not at all now that SD is 21."
God I wish my situation was like that..
Yes I am an he always says
Yes I am an he always says the cultural thing but I dont really care whats the reason if it makes me feel uncomfortable..