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My boyfriend tell me he loves me, I know he does, but he has such a communication problem. He says it was part of the difficulty with his ex. Okay, so then why doesn't he do something about it. He has difficulty telling me he loves me..actually saying the words. I maybe hear it about once a week. I tell him that I need to hear it more often. He has no problem telling his children he loves them every day...now I'm not comparing myself to the kids..but shouldn't that be easy to say to me too?
This is a “theme” that I’ve noticed today so I will pose this question to all the biomoms …please be brutally honest…did you have a “fear” about your ex having children with another woman?
ONCE AGAIN WE GO TO PICK UP SS LAST LIGHT AND HE IS THROWING A FIT. HIS GRANDMA WAS PHYSICALY FIGHTING WITH THE KID TO TRY AND GET HIM ACROSS THE STREET TO THE PARKING LOT WHERE WE ARE COURT ORDERED TO PICK/DROP HIM OFF. HE HAS GOTTEN TO BIG FOR HER TO HANDLE. WHEN HE WAS YOUNGER SHE COULD JUST CARRY HIM OVER TO US. BUT NOW HE OVERPOWERS HER. AFTER 15 MINUTES WATCHING THIS WE DECIDED TO PULL UP TO HER HOUSE (WHICH WE ARE NOT SUPPOSE TO DO). AT THAT POINT MY STEPSON WAS YELLING THAT HE HATES US AND HE HATES OUR HOUSE AND HE DOESN'T WANT TO GO WITH US.
Oldest SD appologised (in a way)to Hubby via e-mail yesterday..
(Just like her mother...everything is always everyone elses fault..she is not responsible for her own words & actions and conscequences...someone else is to blame)
Most of the 'appology' centers around how it's her sisters fault ......."because she just didn't really know what she wanted and was telling everyone ELSE (meaning us?)what they wanted to hear"
I'm really pissed at myself and at BF because I can't get my point across about how much it hurts me that he spends so much time responding to BM insane texting and calling. I mean I can understand if you have a problem with the kids and you need to discuss, fine, or if the kids want to talk to you etc. but at 7:55AM, at 11PM, at 1AM this is not about the kids I"m sorry. Yesterday BM started at 8AM with the calls and texts about coming to get some clothes that were left at our house, I mean literally these items didn't amount to anything.
Hi Everyone! I'm new to "stepTalk" but I've been reading and following posts for a couple of weeks now and just reading your stories and concerns for each other has really touched me. I've been a stepmom for 3 years now. SS 8, SD 10. I have 2 girls of my own 15 & 11. My relationship with BM has been a rollercoaster, and I can't stand her. I've really struggled with her, and at times she has truly got the best of me......but I am trying to really get a grip on how I let her affect my marriage and household.
This is a response to my previous blog entry...... Over this long weekend we just had my kids of course get into a fight. My youngest was on the computer and states she is bored w/ it and is done, so my older daughter decides to get on the computer and I go to the Laundry room. Well I do not know what got into my youngest daughter but she decides to hit her older sister, So when I come back she is crying. I did spank her for hitting her sis because i felt she was out of line.
Hubby is pissed at oldest SD! Youngest SD had asked me & my daughter a couple months ago (smom & ss) if I would plan her bridal shower for her 'Dads' side and said that her mother and sister can put one on for 'Moms' side..
Well oldest wanted us to book a hall for the 1 shower SHE was planning.....
SO her Dad send an e-mail back saying ..I was doing the one for his side..didn't youngest speak to her about that?
I know I've been posting a lot of blogs lately, and I'm sorry...but BM is starting to weird me out. We haven't fought or anything in weeks now. I don't know what caused this sudden shift in her behavior. In the past there have been hours or at the most maybe a day or two here and there where she's been cooperative and civil, but never for this long. My BF is convinced that something is up. This is completely uncharacteristic of her in the 14 years that he's known her and the 3 years that I've been dealing with her.
My fiance and I live together with his 3 yr old son half the time. At first it was hard because of the BM, along with adjusting to having a little one around all the time. Things have gotten better with the BM so far and his son and I are starting to form a bond. Yet, I still find myself feeling sad at times. I know I'm not ready to have a child of my own, but watching them makes me long to share that bond parents have with their children. It makes me sad because we're both trying to start a career for ourselves.
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