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Well my holiday went rather well, which was awesome. SD 16 helped me with the dishes, it was so nice for a change then she stayed awhile and went off to her BM.....My children left to see their dad and my husband and I had some alone time....WOW!!!!! he did want to go to his moms which was shocking but OK with me. My mom and dad were with us already and when they left it was so peaceful...I pray that the next one is the same.....
Recap of Thanksgiving. I had a Wonderful day with MY family!!!!!! Enjoyed my day with MY divorced parents, 2 of my brothers, MY 2 daughters, and my BF. NO SKIDS!! The 2 oldest Skids completely ignored my BF (and he was bummed all day even though the tried to pretend he was ok) The only one who showed up was SD21 who had surgery yesterday- and DROVE herself to come see her dad for a few hours. (she's a sweetheart). The Other two couldn't even answer their phones. Well..... He did talk to SD25 briefly- since I realized my electric mixer was missing right when I was making Mashed Potatoes!!!
Since we got together, SS or BM or both have ruined every single holiday. Thanksgiving, Christmas, my birthday, our wedding day, honeymoon, f'n arbor day it doesnt matter the day he ruins it. How can I live a life where no day can be nice or special? How can I bring kids into this life where no day is special and everything gets ruined or complicated? It's really starting to make me doubt our marriage and make me regret getting with especially since dh doesnt even attempt to try to make things special or try to make up/compensate for how his bullshit ruins and makes my life miserable.
So, the FEX (BM) has decided she's getting SO's S7 a chihuahua for Christmas.
Saw a commercial for this toy today after Thanksgiving dinner: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=m--eTWVJzV8
Oh, boy. Guess what's getting sent over to her house! }:)
Peaceful Thanksgiving wishes to you all.
SS13 has not been turning in his homework - uses every excuse in the world. Days later, he magically finds it in his backpack. This has happened 5-6 times in the last week. I wish he could pull some money or a trip to Hawaii out of that magical backpack!
The lines of communication need to be cut. If its not email its text. If not text its chat. If he still ignores the non skid related rant from the BM then its through me. No more. Number barred. Please go and get a job so that your life is full of more than just ranting. Or better still let a skid pour water on the PC and put your phone in the loo.
I have never been treated like this in my whole life. They are conniving, self righteous and mean. If we go to Thanksgiving dinner and BM is there, I'm never going to agree to see them again.
Sorry for the multiple posts. I'm just crawling out of my skin here. I don't know why people have to be so deceptive. This prolonged attachment between BM and SO's family is only hurting her. She can never have a real relationship as long as she spends every free minute and holiday with her EX HUSBAND's family!
Meanwhile, SO feels totally alienated and so do I.
Even though I have had a lot of difficulty loving her and feeling happy when she is around I have always known it is not her fault. I have also made sure to put on an act when she is here so she doesn't know how I feel about her. I just show her love and treat her like my own daughter. She is only 3.5 and really is just an innocent child stuck in the middle of a really cr*ppy situation.
I am a SM myself and we aren't the Brady bunch.
But...I learned how not to be a SM from my own SM.
Thanksgiving in my family....
Her kids get invited weeks ahead of time, my family gets invited when dad happens to run into my DH at grocery store 5 days ago. My sister is invited when she calls dad yesterday.
Well I had declined as I was cooking
My sis wanted to go and wanted us to.
I suggested I cook as planned and take everything over to add to her meal, since if both sis and I went it would be an extra 13 people.
So I just asked my SO if he wanted to join me at the local outlet mall at midnight for a little Black Friday shopping. There is a ski jacket that my daughter wants for Christmas and it is 50% off and I have a coupon for an additional 15% off. This is the only way I can afford to buy her the $229 coat she wants and actually needs.
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