Im Not Wearing ~Myself~ Down
I'm in my early thirties and I have one child who is 12 and very mannerable. My problem is my boyfriend I love him so much but his head is all ifffed up because he has three children by a woman he was with for 12 years out of his life. His BM is a hot head and only about two lbs soaking wet. She's always texting him and addressing him the wrong way like she's down with the mob and most of the time I don't like the tone of it ~she's rude~. His BM wants him to do everything and he's a great father because he tries. She has no life no education no class and nowhere to live. She got evicted from her place and has been in and out of shelters for what seems like the three years him and I been together. She's basically unstable and her two boys are hell on wheels like her family. My boyfriend has to take custody because his nosey mother suggested he do that, he's such a mamas boy. She probably knows it'll chase me away.Problem...who's gonna watch them... they are BAD! They curse they steal and they fight and bicker all the time. His little princess is ok sometimes but she whines a lot and cries over silliness. He gots to go I love him but the kids come first and I understand that....but he doesn't understand that I do. I told him if he takes custody he has to go back home because he does have his own place, but he doesn't want to.
He tries to leave them here with me all the time and I'm just not with it. He'll go to the store for a whole hour and stuff like that while their tearing my place up. I love him but want nothing to do with his kids. I didn't mention they already stole my cell phone but won't admit it :o/. I don't want their behavior to rub off on my boy. His sons is 10 and 13 going on 20 and 31. Their also in the system because of their mother. What should I do?
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I agree with you I feel like
I agree with you I feel like I'm in way over my head. I just want to enjoy what's left of my early thirties and not feel miserable. He's a good guy when it come to his children. He does everything he could for them he also did recently take custody so their going with him for the summer. I tried the summer thing last year wiith them and it was a nightmare! He had to always work and he was leaving them with me all the time and it was horrible! I cried almost every day. Im putting my foot down because I have a lot of things I like to do and that I am doing and I knew better than to have three kids right away. He also may have an extra son by some woman who came around after 11years talking about its his. I say blood test... you know what I wanna say I'm out! He would have been perfect. Its been three years now
What a jerk. No one should
What a jerk. No one should have to tell a FATHER to take custody of his HOMELESS children. That should have been a no brainer. His mother isn't nosey. Like most grandparents, she is looking out for her grandchildren. She's trying to get her sorry son to do the right thing. Sadly he isn't putting his kids first. He's just thinking about himself. How can a parent sit back and do nothing while kids are in and out of shelters?
We were only together for
We were only together for three years. When my bf and his bm broke up he left her with an apartment fully loaded. His kids had everything. He is a carpenter he had tools still there and his kids had all the entertainment they needed. She had a cheap rent and lost the apartment. She let the super and other people take everything they had ...that was their place. He moved into his moms place when he left her and had no idea she was losing the apartment. He just got his apartment from his mother who left hers for him. His Mom moved into her late husbands home.
His bm is in and out of shelters because she's not doing what she suppose to do to get out plus she don't wanna work. Yes he could be a jerk sometimes but not with his children he loves his kids. He just works a lot and can't watch them. Noone wants to even the baby sitter he had warned me are u kidding.
His mother treats him like a baby though and she does now how to be really sneaky about things. She use to beg me to lie to him and say stupidness just to get him to move back in with her for the company. Im sick of the whole ordeal I'm the one not getting any attention. If his bm wants her kids what is he suppose to do buy her an apartment again? She better go get that money and work it hunny! She doesn't like to work.
His family spoils those children. They go on vacations and cruises that his family take them on pls! Some poeple don't know when they got it good. Though I have a wonderful family I don't get all of those perks I work for mine and the place that I got!