ok another update to why this bothets me ss excludibg

Ok soblast night dh was supposed to see ss16 but forgot about ss1e g dh told ss16 he can meet hihem at the game. Ss16 wanted to know if i would ne there too. Dh said yes as ss13 wanted me there. Ss16 said no how about thursday.

So if anyone has ant doubts that ss16 has no problem with me.

He is excluding me on purpose and i dont like it at alln i have done nothing to deserve this disrepect. I do NOT exclude them on anything when they are here. Of course we do things without them but always when they are with there mom.

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soooo has DH asked him what

soooo has DH asked him what his problem is whit you?

Not yet he wants to do ot in

Not yet he wants to do ot in person. I understand that. But 2 times now dh offered to see ss16 and both times ss16 said no b/c i would be there. So its not about wakokoijnting to see dad but about excluding me as he has a problem obviously.

So is your DH going to give

So is your DH going to give him some time Thursday?

It could be as simple as him wanting to talk to his dad about something he's not comfortable talking about in front of you.

"I do NOT exclude them on anything when they are here. Of course we do things without them but always when they are with there mom."
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It's easy for you to plan things without them. I just see him trying to plan things with his dad around you. It's not so easy for him to do because you aren't somewhere else on a scheduled basis.

I really wouldn't take so much offense to it until your DH has had a chance to talk to him.

Yes he is going to talk to

Yes he is going to talk to him thurs. And yes i have a work schedual since i work nights he can tgen. But my problem is how ss16 went about it and on a sunday when that is the only day both dh and i are off ss knows that.

Its not about ss spending time with dh alone but about ss16 specificlly refused to meet dh with me.

If it is about spending tine with dad he could have gone to dinner with us sun and went to the game last night and still could have asked to see dad on thurs when im at work. Instead ss CHOOSE to stay home alone then be aroynd me.

If SS16 wanted a private

If SS16 wanted a private conversation with his Dad about something I would have thought he would either wait until a suitable moment, or tell him he wanted to talk to him about something. It's not very subtle to ask if someone is going to be there, and then specifically say that you will not attend because that person will be present, and do that on 2 separate occasions. In fact it sounds as though SS is deliberately trying to make a point.