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Three people in a marriage, Dh's Mangina and other musings....

princessmofo's picture

My name is Princess Mofo and my dh has a mangina. Yep. He's all emo. Again. SS's first day of school was today. He went back to bm yesterday. I found dh curled up in a ball in ss's bed last night asleep. Yes, cause he's rather sleep in his child's bed then with his wife because I'm an ogre and I "don't understand".

There's also three people in my marriage. Bm pulled the puppets strings and he danced. She called him yesterday to orchestrate a time for dh to see ss off on his first day. And he took the bait. He skipped out early this morning to meet them both. I told him to "make sure you kiss your other wife goodbye this morning after ss goes into his class". Nevermind that my bios started school yesterday and this ass didn't bother to see them off.

At ss's back to school night I was the invisible woman. Bm would not even speak to me, like I care. But what chapped my hide was the fact that when coaches and teachers would speak to dh he wouldn't even introduce me. It's like I was just arm candy. I was dressed to kill which is how I roll and you could see the steam coming off of bm's head. She didn't bother to bring her dh (the flying monkey) which I thought was unusual. I asked dh if what she was wearing that evening was what she had on at work (they work together) he said "no". So she changed into something nicer before attending. Did I mention she had her lawyer call dh's lawyer the day of the back to school open house to instruct dh that "Princess is not to attend, it should be parents only." Seriously? Our lawyer told him to suck it and that would not be happening. Princess will go where her dh goes. That really fucked me off!! The gall of that twat waffle. So clearly she changed and didn't bring her new husband because she thought she was going to have dh to herself, so they could play happy family.

I'm over all this fucking shit. And I'm disengaging from dh. Can you do that? How do you do that?

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twopines's picture

Agree

Onefootout's picture

I second the agreement. That's what first came to my mind when asked how to disengage.

But until then, if he's insisting on being in SS bedroom, get him a cot and make that his assigned sleeping room for at least the next month. And of course for me that would also mean no intimacy for that time because my libido would be completely dead after seeing him curled up in a fetal position in his son's bed.

Seriously, I'd be really tempted to move all his belongings out of the marital bedroom and then claim the room as mine exclusively.

Cocoa's picture

gosh, sounds like he just recently is divorced from bm if he's seriously THAT over-wrought with his kid going back to his mom's. sounds like he's not done grieving his previous relationship/family unit and perhaps needs plenty of time to come to terms with his divorce and custody situation. maybe a separation would accomplish this. when he's finally done mourning and ready to pusue a true marital relationship with his WIFE, maybe you could move back home. unless you find someone else while he's grieving.

princessmofo's picture

Yea, he's been divorced for over five years. But you can't really "end" a relationship with someone when you still have to see them every freaking day of your life because you work together. It's sick. I truly think they both still enjoy being that intertwined.

Cocoa's picture

feel bad for you. your marriage sounds too crowded. is there no way possible for your dh to change jobs because his job is killing your marriage. maybe an ultimatum? your job or your marriage?

DarkStar's picture

I'm so sorry Princess. I just want to choke that DH of yours, he's an idiot, as many DHs here are, to not see and appreciate what he has.

This is why SO and I broke up. I just couldn't stand the idea of being #3 being skids and BM.