Ok, so I see over and over vents about Bmoms, skids, and i do my fair share of bmom complaints lol...right now I just want to vent about their deadbeat dad.

You know-since they were born and before we divorced I already took on the majority of responsibility with them-hence why he never argued for custody or even took advantage of the generous visitation he was offered. He's always done the minimum.

Not to mention he's in arrears around $15-20K...but I'm not going after it (and this is w/a $500 monthly support for two kids), I carry their medical also. He was supposed to also pay half of any additional expenses not covered by insurance, co-pays or medications, vision, etc...never happened. Ok so bare minimum there.

Then to physical time...he has EOW, one weeknight a week from after school to 8pm. EOW was assigned as Fri afternoon to Sun evening-or Sat am till Monday (and he would have to take to school). Alternate Holidays based on year it is, and he got 2 wks in summer until the youngest hit 7 and then 4 weeks in summer. We get to alternate Christmas/Spring breaks also.

What he HAS done-of the 7yrs divorced-he missed countless weekends, his EOW consists of Sat 2pm to Sun 6pm. Never the weeknight, never the holidays, or weeks in summer or Xmas, Springs breaks...none of it.

Halloween-which through me over the top. I have bought the costumes, done the set up and all of it for the last 11yrs. Since the divorce 7 ago, I have always had them this day, done the shopping, all of it. One time he came over when they were already trick or treating to see them for an hour and left. I HATE HATE shopping, big crowds give me panic attacks and bad anxiety (thats why i love amazon ha!)-but here again I was this year amongst crazy crowds-kids that cant' decide what they want, and I'm losing it.

Finally we get to car and I ask-how come you guys didn't go do the costume shopping last wknd w/your dad? Get this: Mom, we did ask him, he wouldn't take us, he said just go with your mom.

WHAT THE F'in F??? Seriously...I mean the years and years of his utter disregard for responsibility with his kids just hit me all at once. All came flooding. I'm sick of it. The man is 42 f'in years OLD. GROW UP, be a dad. He lives 25min away from the kids-pick up the slack! If you work Saturday, you make your own darn sitter arrangements for the kids-that is HIS time. Just like I have to pay after school, or a babysitter or offer my parents $ to watch them while they are with me. BUT NOT HIM. EVER. He does the minimum always and gets away with it.

Bday parties-I plan, organize, invite...he shows up to enjoy it? This last bday of my oldest I left him out of it this time. I'm tired of being the nice guy.
Yesterday he called around 5pm...probably was going to see what kids were doing for halloween and possibly show up for 40min to enjoy MY hard work and expense for them to have a good halloween. My bf and i set up decorations, shopped, cleaned, dealt w/kids on candy crack all day (mine and neighbor kids)...and what you want to show up to enjoy the fun ? I never answered so I don't know and frankly there is no way I could see his deadbeat ass after all this crap.

He criticizes the place I take the boys for haircuts-i said fine...you say your guy is better-take him this wknd (past one)...deduct it from CS (just like I mentioned anytime he wants to perhaps make an effort and take them shopping for clothes or say Halloween??) and take him there. Of course kid comes back w/no haircut.

Lazy ass sucker sees them 3 1/2 days a month-per HIS choice, living 25 min away. He doesn't currently have a gf-but it was really not too different when he did-except sometimes he'd pick them up Friday.

Ok, vent out, low life morons who don't give a damn about spending time w/their kids.