DD9 had an an end of the year performance this week and SD24 attended.  She had an interesting North Korea update.  It was very, very hard for me to keep a straight face and not to smile but I somehow managed.  North Korea was audited by the IRS!!!!  You may kindly remember she is a hair dresser and owns her own salon and it used to eat my crawl how she would claim zero.  That she made zero dollars and would just spend, spend, spend, spend like crazy.  Long timers know I've been here a decade or more and I would come on here green with envy and would just cry.  That we had to give her a $1000 a month child support plus half of everything and she would just get all this plastic surgery, take all these cruises, bought a boat, and a camper, and one of those $12,000 Gator ride on golf cart thing, motorcycles, horses, a barn, a pool, an outdoor kitchen, trips to California, cruises, you name it.  We were so broke.  I was so broke.  And she still had "no money" and we had to buy so much for the kids.  Remember she had zero health insurance for the kids.  None.  And the youngest was undiagnosed type 1 diabetic and was very sickly and she would just take her to chiropractor.  And I ended up having to do a domestic partnership with my DD's father to get my stepkids health insurance.  That's the backstory.  I did a lot of crying on here.  Remember her husband, the ex best friend, owned an automotive shop and had a safe with cash in it. 

So everyone on here would say, slow and steady wins the race.  Play the long game.  Keep being you.  Keep being the sane person and sane parent.  And here are a decade or mare later cause they were 9 and 10 when I met those girls and they will be 23 next month and 24.  North Korea just in personal taxes owes $24,000.  Just in personal taxes.  SD doesnt even know what she owes for the business but she doesn't have the 24k in savings.  She has no savings.  NONE!!!!!!!  ZERO.  She is the same age as me and has no savings and a sh!t ton of debt and who knows how much she owes the IRS in her salon business taxes cause apparently according to SD she told them she was making 30k a year but is making 130k a year.  So we make the exact same amount of money and let me tell you I may not have a fancy pool and  an outdoor kitchen but I don't have debt!!! and I have a very nice retirement! and if the IRS dropped a 24k bill on me today, I could pay it!  

and then let's look at my kids.  All four of my daughters are lovely people.  They are all doing well.  They are all good people. SD24 is a good person.  In my opinion it's despite of North Korea, not because of her but I'm sure she'll say otherwise. 

SD22 (23 next month) is still not doing well.  She lost her sugar daddy so no more luxury two bedroom apartment.  I think she's homeless.  She also has to turn in the Tesla.  She's still on my health insurance.  I saw she was in the ICU last month in critical care for at least a week and then had "an encounter for pregnancy".  The code makes me think she is not pregnant any longer.  This was two weeks after the ICU stay for the diabetic episode so no job, no apartment, still isn't managing her health, and still not on birth control.