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SD13 Doesn't seem to respect

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Submitted by newtothisstepmo... on Sun, 05/01/2011 - 10:58pm

First of all, when my husband and I got married his children thought it was awesome. They were 8 and 11 at the time. Now, 2 years later,
SD13 is not happy unless she gets her way and her dad has been afraid to correct her on alot of the issues. So now that he is starting to come down on her she gets really angry and hits people and yells and then doesnt want to talk about it. I believe this to be typical teenager attitude as this was how I treated my mom at that age. My concern is that she wont even let him explain things to her and she shuts everyone out and has said right to his face, "Your not the custodial parent! I don't have to listen to you!"

I am willing to try to help both parties in the situation. It can be difficult because her dad gets mad that she won't listen then he starts swearing really bad (not f word) and then he is like that for the rest of the day and I have to tried to tell him that she is confused and upset that life got screwed up. I want to be her friend and not her enemy. I really think she can be an awesome person if she could come to grips with the step-mom and realize her dad loves her.

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Submitted by hismineandours on Mon, 05/02/2011 - 4:32am

This is NOT normal typical teen behavior. I never hit anyone when I was a teen, my daughter who is 13 has never hit anyone, my ss who is also 13 and has adhd and odd and is hell on wheels has hit his siblings but he certainly does not hit dad or myself. You should get this girl some help before she ends up in juvenile detention (which is where she belongs if she is hitting people). This situation is way out of control.

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Submitted by doll faced sm on Mon, 05/02/2011 - 8:43am

I totally agree with hismineandours. This is way outside of normal teenage behavior. The only one of my sibs who ever hit a parent (also ODD, interestingly enough) *did* end up in juvi and then later in adult jail.

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Submitted by newtothisstepmo... on Mon, 05/02/2011 - 11:15pm

Something that we deal with on a regular basis is the BM coaching the girls on mean things to say and then once they have said them all is fine. When SD8 is asked why they said it she answers back "I don't know" and then DH is all over SD13 about her not liking him and how she disrespects him. Am I wrong for trying to get him to stop attacking her in this way. I honestly believe this is what leads to her outburst.