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What kind of soul-less human being offers tacos as a trap ?!

newlyblendedandtrying's picture

My Overbearing MIL sent me a text earlier asking if we could please have a family dinner she was making tacos. I politely declined 1. I have been trying to disengage from her she makes me nuts 2. I'm on a diet which I had already mentioned to her several times 3. House to myself? Yes please
I then get a text from my SO saying his mom wants to do a family taco dinner, I told him yes I know I declined no biggie go have tacos and have fun. He said I could still make a taco salad. I again said no thanks

So then I get another text from MIL saying she really wishes she could see me with a sad face emoji, I ignore it. The question was asked and politely answered plus I was at work. Then about an hour later I get another text form her saying she had a talk with my step son about his cell phone and responsibility. ( he received a phone for Christmas and lost it. He was told he would not get another. He needed to find the original phone this was discussed w her. No one was to get him another phone) so step son is going on a trip with his other grandma and she wants him to have a phone to keep in touch is her excuse and she said she hopes this is ok with me bc I am the step mom. Ummmmmm if u wanted to know if it was ok you would have asked if it was OK BEFORE you had the conversation with step son. You obviously don't care what I think and want to appear like the good guy with sending me a half assed text after the fact. That's obviously why she wanted me to go over there and eat tacos so bad , she wanted to talk about the phone. What kind of awful person offers tacos with a motive?

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notsobad's picture

I would send a text to DH and tell him to tell his mom No, no cell phone. He's the parent, he gets the final word and if she or SS doesn't like it too bad.
If she goes ahead and gets SS a cell phone it better be on her dime and her contract, no way I'd let her get him a phone and keep using your contract.

kathc's picture

I hate to admit, unless I REALLY hated her it'd work on me, too.

Like, if BM offered tacos, I'd be like "no, keep your evil tacos of hatred!"

But MIL? Yeah, I'd be there. And I'd bring dessert.

newlyblendedandtrying's picture

Ss just walked in from being done w dinner with an iPhone box. So beyond irritating. This was all done during a work day he doesn't leave for another month it Could have waited. I haven't responded to her Bs text about me being the step mom and don't think I will
I have to take a deep breath and not allow this person to take up so much space in my brain

Maxwell09's picture

Yes, let it go. You knew she was setting you up and you didn't give her the chance. You stood firm and refused to be engaged. You're doing good so don't get back into it now. She would have given him the phone whether you went to dinner or not and whether you agreed or not. If anything she was pot-stirring or manipulating you into accepting it in front of SS and the others or risk looking like the evil stepmom. I'm proud you didn't play her game. Ignore that Taco Trap Whore

newlyblendedandtrying's picture

you are correct she wanted to present it at dinner then when she found out I wasn't going had to cover her tracks and send that BS text. I'm worried disengaging won't work and I'll end up exploding, but I'm giving it a try I guess

ESMOD's picture

I would have said.. FINE.. gramma can get him a plain old tracfone that he will have on the trip and they can cancel service when he gets back.

That Iphone would be gone back in a flash!

Tuff Noogies's picture

^^^this is my question also - your dh was there, and your dh allowed it. what does he have to say for himself?

iluvcheese's picture

Wow if I would've fallen into that trap, I believe I'd have to take tacos out of my diet. Id be perpetually reminded of evil MILs with every taco bite. That means no more moes, Taco Bell, etc. I'd be pissed.