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Submitted by monkeytoes77 on Sat, 01/21/2012 - 12:06am

I just feel lost! i feel like a horrible person. I just don't want to do it anymore. I have to have some change. I talk to dh, he throws and ice cream cone at our window, in our home... last night this happened. I still ehavent cleaned it yet he ask me to take SD to her BB game, pick her up from her Gma house to take her, BM is at game. I just want to quit. He tells me last night he wishes he never married me, he F..ing hates me. We have 2 bio kids together. I just want to quit!!

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Submitted by anonymoussm on Sat, 01/21/2012 - 8:25am

OH BOY....I know EXACTLY how you feel!!! First I want to say, don't clean it up...why should you??!! You didn't make the mess!!! I too have two biological children with my hubby, we have been together for 18 years....SS is now 19...I too did what you do, with the driving SS here and there, picking him up from school when he was sick, planning his birthday parties(he had to have two parties...one with BM's family and one with DH's family) I would have to deal with BM...When he turned 12, he told MOMMY he didn't want to come over anymore because of ME...and my husband blamed me. That's when I decided to disengage from SS....I told hubby, I was no longer going to deal with BM or do anymore for SS as I have treated him no different from my own and this was the thanks I get. The argument became heated, and I ended it with I'm not the one who knocked the bitch up, so you deal with her and your kid from now on....and I'm not leaving my own home when he is here to satisfy him. Hubby told me when we started dating that he and SS were a package deal...but what about me and my two?? Good luck to you...here if you need to vent...just wanted you to know you are not alone~~~

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Submitted by stepmonster_2011 on Sat, 01/21/2012 - 11:54am

I was thinking this too - Time for the exit plan! (even if it is temporary to show him how life will be without you)

My next thought - I think I can see how BMs can become nasty and hateful creatures - their husbands say hateful crap like this! If someone said this to me? Oh man - Them's fightin' words! You regret marrying me? I'm gonna show you REAL REGRET...

You know what I mean?

Anyway - OP I hope he sees more clearly the error of his ways and you can work together to resolve the issues.

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Submitted by broken hearted on Sat, 01/21/2012 - 12:12pm

WOW! Dejavu!

As I say on most of comments - get into counseling before things get out of control.

I was so consmed with therapy for my SD that I overlooked the therapy for me and DH. It was a fateful mistake. Please dont make the same one!

Good Luck hun!

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