We need help!! Just informed BM and SD are moving THIS WEEK!! Is there anything we can do??
I feel like I am having an anxiety attack, everyone keeps telling us to be patient, including our lawyer, but now, we are terrified of losing SD8 for good!
BM informed FH Friday evening at her house while he was picking up SD that they are moving in with her mother. We have no idea where her mother lives! We know that it is in a generally large area, at least 1 hour of a drive away, however, we are not sure of the exact town or address. That was all BM said. End of discussion on her part. However, the divorce papers CLEARLY state that she has to notify the court of intent to move 30 days prior to actually moving, so that the court or FH has the chance to reject her decision. BM doesn't think that it's necessary to inform the court of her move. On top of that, she still didn't pay her deposit for the guardian ad litem yet, which was due to the court 2 weeks ago.
We have a feeling that she is running because she knows she is going to lose. SD informed us that her mother is going to be working somewhere else, so we will have no where to find her. I feel like we are stuck and there is nothing we can do. SD is devastated that her mother is ripping her out of her advanced math classes and away from all her friends, but she is too afraid to tell her mom that she wants to stay here with us.
On another note, SD informed FH that she feels "neglected" at our house in front of BM when he picked her up. FH said, did you tell your mother that we went fishing and to the festival and to the library and to the movies? SD responded with "NO" FH said, I am surprised SD knows what the word neglected means, and BM said, well, she said ignored, I was trying to teach her a new word :jawdrop:
Then, hours after FH arrived home with SD, BM continued to call him repeatedly to tell him that SD feels like FH loves MollyBee and MollyBee's daughter more than her. BM says that FH needs to take SD away from us when he has her and just be with SD. Thoughts? I would never tell FH he couldn't just spend time with SD, however, we are trying to raise a FAMILY, and SD is already treated like the world revolves around HER.
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Call your attorney ASAP
to see what you can do about the moving.
I do have to say, though, that I do think it's good for father and daughter to have some quality time alone together. That being said, that needs to be only periodically (a few times a month) and FH needs to step up on disciplining SD.
I agree with Anon2009...
Find out NOW what you can do about the moving or you may end up in my situation. BM moved 45 minutes away & immediately registered SD9 in the school there. BM then had SD9 when school started, so she started school there. We now only have SD9 every other weekend (they have 50/50 custody & my husband has had SD9 AT LEAST every other week for the last 7 years) & we do all the driving to get her because BM has become even more difficult than she was before. We have to wait until we go to court (in November) to settle this. I wish my husband had IMMEDIATELY consulted a lawyer or at least contacted the court about BM moving. It's been very stressful & a complete mess. I wouldn't want you to go through anything like this!!!
BM is not going anywhere fast
Call your lawyer, then take the papers you have down to the courthouse and let them know what she is planning, they may get the police involved if they think that she is going to "kidnap" this child away from you. We went through this same situation years back with our BM, and boy did she look foolish when the police showed up at her door telling her that if she left town w/ the skids, kidnapping charges would be filed. Our papers said that a move of that sort had to be 90 days notification in advance, and it had to be agreed to by DH as the skids "homestate" was FL. and it would have to be ok with DH for her to move them anywhere out of the state, and even the county they were in. It was not ok w/ him of course, and it looked really bad on her when we went to court for custody, and that came up. ~ " I'm awful sorry you got pissed, just have to cross you off the list, of my true friends." PHISH~