Long time no post new name

This may end up being lengthy.
A year ago I exited the stepworld as my now exdh decided to drop that he was having an affair and moved the bitch in while i was in another state careing for my grandmother. No big deal really he was a moron that pissed me off daily still after 6 years with him it hurt, mostly I miss the kids. I still keep in touch with now exbm so atleast that is some kind of connection with them. Me and exbm had our issues but for the most part were friends so issues never reaaly were her. In the past year so much has change and sometimes I long for the day she was the bm I had to deal with now.. I used to be mystiery and had been posting and reading here for years, thinking thank god I dont have a crazy bm. Well ladies I dare say that I believe mine now not only takes the cake but she ran off with the whole bakery.
Again almost a year again and newly single met a man. To me attractive and a bit of the smooth talker type, figured oh well hes cute i will just play with him and dip after a bit didnt really want a man. Needless to say fell in love. Never thought someone could love me as much as him. His family is still shocked about his changes with me. Used to be a slacker who used women needless to say no longer like that.
So lets insert dbbm (douche bag bm). When i first met fdh we had an open relationship agreement. He never lied to me, he let me know he would most likley have to sleep with dbbm soon as he had been promising her he would, mind you that promise was the reason he was able to see kids. I had no issue as long as i didnt have to meet her. He never slept with her cause well he always me around pissed her off but oh well. Ps they were never married. Ok so met her anyways he fault she showed up at 7am unannounced. So met her toothless ass her her then 5 kids with one on the way, shes married. A month later she moved in with fdh due to her nah (nasty ass husband ) beingaccused and charged of rapeing their 4yo daughter. She only stayed a month because she didnt like the fact i wasnt going anywhere.
At that time i was massicly sick and needed surgery so stress was rampid for me. After she moved. She would not let my fdh so much as breath a word to his 3 boys and over the year me and her had it out to the tune of me saying she was a carrer whore check collector, jokes on hr my dh never paid xhild support bad i know and the arreages blow but lawyer getting it all thrown out.
(Last two months) Dbbm had slipped up as we knew she would. There pas been a ro against her nah and the kids...guess who she was living with. Dss contacted us to check our home a week latrer my dhs kids our now ours. Hence arrers going bye bye in stead of her paying alot of cp.
What makes her t ake the bakery you ask? She was involved several times in violating her daughter very nasty bitch however shes crying victim... and shes preggo with with child 7...no clue who ddaddy is.
So right now i am 6 mths preg with my 1st child (took tens yrs) and am a sahm to his 3 all in school anddd i watch his sisters 3 boys daily, we all live together cheaper at yhe time didnt know. We were getting his boys. So im ssuprised im not bald but 6 boys daily with a boy on the way. Very stressed and will posted more about the saga soon as for now off to take two to their therapist.

lostmind's blog
Log in or register to post comments

Comments

Sounds like the joke is on

Sounds like the joke is on you, not BM.

Nothing you posted makes this man sound good.

He has a history of using women
He informed you he was going to sleep with BM. If you think he didn't, you just kidding yourself.
He moved moved BM into his home.
He never paid CS.

Now you're living in a home with 3 adults, 6 kids and a baby on the way.

The man is garbage.

Jumped into the fire one this

Jumped into the fire one this one. SMH. You know this will not end well. And you are bringing a child into the mix. Sorry but wow. Just WOW.

^^^This.

Whats a cosa group? And to

Whats a cosa group?

And to the others yes i know i have put myself in a mess but my feelings are my feelings. I did not give enough background on some of it. My fdh is not horrible at all. He was horribly behind in cp though he did send money when he had it at the time he made 200 a week and had cp of 600 a month...his fault he knows it i dont let him forget it. He made a lot of bad decisions and hasbeen working really hard at turning things around. I do not dinancially take care of him, my money is mine to do what i want. He has gotten a much better job since the move we are just waiting on the lease to run out his sister still needs the help. As far asyhe 6 kids 3 i get paid to sit with all day. My stress is coming from his kids and the brainwashing and neglect this woman did to them. Dont get me wrong i blame fdh as well and tell him so when he tries to place the blame on her some of it is her but some is his as well. I can honestly say he full on supports me with what goes on with his kids as well as listens to what i tell him i think he needs to do to continue to clean this mess up and help his kids. As far as him sleeping with her then i honestly believe him but if he did i cant even get mad i was with someone else too then before we closed our relationship he knew about it as well so yeah not mad if he did or didnt. It never was an issue just said tjat because tjat is the kind of person to use the kids like that. Theyy have been split for 7 years and she still trys to go after him. He no longer talk to her alone its always on my phone on speaker andbeing recorded same way she talks to the kids.

Of course he supports you in

Of course he supports you in all of this. He knows it's damn near impossible to find a woman who is willing to allow her man to sleep with another woman.

Don't be surprised if he's the 7th baby's father.

This^^^

I have to agree with those

I have to agree with those who said the jokes on you. You mention you do not financially take care of him. I believe that, as I can't imagine you could financially take care of yourself on what you would make babysitting.

You say he's got a decent job now but is getting his arrears tossed out instead of stepping up & paying what he owed...?

And WTF is this??? " he let me know he would most likley have to sleep with dbbm soon as he had been promising her he would"

He would HAVE to sleep with his ex because HE PROMISED HE WOULD??? LMFAO!

It sounds like you want people to believe you've got a handle on this relationship, but I have to tell you, NOTHING you've said indicates that you have anything in this relationship but a grip.

Now you have a child on the way. Have you considered where you'll be when he's had enough of you & moves on to the next woman? You can't raise a child on babysitting wages & obviously you can't count on him paying support.

I have to agree with Cheri when she said:

"You hooked up with a loser and you think you fixed him. You just don't realize, the guy is very very good at acting, and he's got you hoodwinked.

The dramafest that swirls around this guy and you think the only problem you have is his ex-wife."

Good luck.

No advice. But I'd like to

No advice. But I'd like to borrow your rose-colored glasses from time to time.

Holy hell, what a mess.

This post does not seem real.

This post does not seem real. It may be real but it's just to weird for me. You're talking about this lifestyle as if it's normal with just a few issues here and there.

If you don't see your situation as extremely unhealthy than I don't know what to say. Only thing I suggest is get out and stay in therapy.

Last time im posting here.

Last time im posting here. For somewhere that is supposed to be a place to vent I have been nothing but berrated by a bunch of people on their high horses thinking they are better than others. Not once did I ever say I was unhappy, sgress and being unhappy are two seperate things.

To quote DisneyFan: Nothing

To quote DisneyFan: