The disneyland dad claimed I did not love him unconditionally. 

And I agreed. 

I think he was taken aback. 

But somewhere he was sold some naive fantasy fairytale that most couples never experience.

That your partner/spouse will unconditionally love you

Maybe this is just me but the moment my spouse cheats, destroys our financial security, treats me our our kids abusively, etc.....I'm safely peacing out of that relationship as quickly as possible. 

I swear some of these bio parents have got to be the most clueless people I know.....

If it takes a village to raise a child, why do these bio parents (who have willing able healthy villages to help them) turn down help, pretend the help of the village is beyond their ability to engage with, act as if they have no resources disposable to them but instead allow their wounded egos to control their maladaptive behavior that they then push onto the step kids? 

Ok so I have a kid free weekend and you mean to tell me you are so clueless you can't figure out how to arrange for your kid-free weekend so we can have adult time together?!? 
 

I'm most likely going to ditch my useless partner this weekend (until I can leave for good) while he runs himself ragged playing Mr Mom /single Disneyland dad so I can engage in guilt free adult only activities where I'm not hassled a million times a day to cater to some obnoxious clingy kids. 
 

No one imagines their stepkids to be complete pia but sometimes it's just like that.

Here is a list of typical pia type of skids:

• Clingy
• Needy
• Lazy
• Messy
• Loud
• Whiny
• Demanding
• Attention-seeking

Boundaries conversation is the first line of defense. Depending on how that goes then sometimes evacuating is the best remedy. Then disengaging, and grey rock method are good coping alternatives.