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Dreading Weekend Skid Takeover

Lillywy00's picture

I am feeling anxiety as Friday approaches and these Disneyland raised entitled disrespectful skids show up 

Last two weekends have been h3ll as this dude agreed in couples therapy he would make his son clean the shower but conveniently 'forgot', Disneyland dad never does it so either me or my daughter end up cleaning bathrooms after his messy a$$ kids leave. After I recommended he feed his kids dinner at a reasonable hour, he ignored me, then came back at 11:30pm declaring he was cooking food for his kids (complete with gabage disposal running/banging of pots and pans/other noisy behavior), argued with me when I called out his rude behavior, and accused me of being 'mad that his kids were hungry'. Shortly after that he yelled at me when I asked him to take his after hours B*tch Beck & Call service in another room. Then next weekend brought some random a$$ kid for a sleepover without my knowledge. And again, bare minimal cleaning up after himself and his kids around this house, especially on weekends.

I left all weekend BOTH weekends to avoid dealing with them or being around them and most likely will do the same this weekend. 

FULL Disengagement was alot easier last weekend when my kid was out of town (I could wake up early before the bumps on logs started foraging then come back later in the evening and go straight to bed). But since my kid is back in town now, all-day disengagement is going to be harder but I'm going to plan as much of it out of this house so I don't have to be around small d*ck / demon energy as much. 

I plan to keep packing stuff in storage and searching for my own space again. 

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Lillywy00's picture

I would like to say I was relieved once theyre gone back to their mothers (because I dont have it in me to deal with disneyland parenting more than 3 days a week) but the dude has created such a hostile weekend environment for me that the tension isn't relieved until mid-week and by that time its like groundhog day and time to face the reality of dealing with an idiot disneyland dad and his spawns again. 

Lillywy00's picture

When weekend hits, hes doing all the transports, cooking, grocery shopping, entertaining, and purchasing....most likely as a single dad since he wants to run the weekend/house like he did when he was a single dad

Lillywy00's picture

I'm keeping the faith that something safe and affordable will be avaiable for me soon too!

AgedOut's picture

We're knee deep in Fall festivals, apple picking, cemetery jaunts, sppokey things and pumpkin related activities. Maybe you and your kiddo can look them up, pick one and the two of you hit the road for most of the day tomorrow. Then on Sunday lather, rinse, repeat. 

Lillywy00's picture

Good idea. 
 

He usually complains I leave him with his kids 

Well if the idiot wasn't so heavy on the Disneyland parenting I wouldn't have to leave. 

I decided to continue with my disengagement / parallel (step)parent  

You take care of your kids since you set the bar so low for them and don't care how their behavior affects everyone else in this house. And I'll take care of mine. I don't want to see, engage in, or enable that mess

Finding fall events and things I can do with my kid is a good option. 

Winterglow's picture

He whines because he's all alone with his kids? Does he understand what the point of visitation is?

Harry's picture

You know your SO is not going to change. He not going to make his kids do anything.  This is not the way you want to live.  You need a exit plan.  But in the mean time.  Tell the SK to clean up. Go to there rooms at 10 pm.  If you are going to fight,, then start the fights.  Anyone who stares cooking at 11;30 is out of there mind. 

Lillywy00's picture

Thank you so much Harry. 
 

He says that I have authority to tell them to clean after themselves but deep down he doesn't think they should have to clean over here because they clean at their mothers and he wants to "give them a break" 

....yeah a break at MY expense. 

The arguing with me about allowing his kids to eat in the kitchen at 1130pm when everyone should be quiet in their rooms - he solidified why I am choosing to extricate myself  

I like structure especially for kids and he does not. He wants to run his parenting weekends like he did when he was single (anything goes, loud, no bedtimes, and now that he has a house slave -> no cleaning, etc) and that doesn't work for me  

I am working my darndest to safely move on and up from this in a timely fashion 

Winterglow's picture

He wants them to have a break from cleaning? Only if he does the work for them.

Frankly, cleaning up after themselves is NOT a chore, it's just common decency.