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Clingy Disneyland "Dad" Actually Having A Life

Lillywy00's picture

....Thank heavens this dude AND his kids have been sparse around here. 

Ironically he's been getting better about taking his after-hours 24/7 B*tch Beck And Call service elsewhere and making his kids take their loud allnight tv/gaming marathons in their rooms after 10pm

Still not satisfied with their level of cleaning in the common areas that they use (but that's another story)

Still getting triggered when he says "I'm not picking them up this weekend", I plan a quiet weekend in the home I can never seem to get peace in on the weekends, then he folds like a cheap suit when they demand to be in this house, lets them run him around, and tells me last minute that he's picking them up. B*tch if you tell them "I will pick you up next weekend", then that is what it is. 

I'm not against him seeing them but I am against them distubing my peace, him not being able to get what I need done because he's busy catering/coddling/clingfests, and feeling like the guest when they touchdown and takeover. 

I hope he takes them OUT tomorrow. I have thouroughly enjoyed my almost skid-free weekend until he said he was thinking about picking them up. 

He made a comment that I've been at the house all weekend and he thinks it's because his kids arent here....Well I can actually enjoy my space now that I don't have to share it with your loud, needy, no-boundary, territory invading, no home training spawns who dont follow my reasonable rules. 

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Rags's picture

I can actually enjoy my space now that I don't have to share it with your loud, needy, no-boundary, territory invading, no home training spawns who dont follow my reasonable rules. 

Harry's picture

Who's "" folds like a cheap suit ""  letting the kids control your home and life.   He has kids,'' they are not going away... Hw has responsibility,, raising his kids...   You have the perfect right to not want to do this...  You need to be with someone with out kids..  You need that person to put you first. [ just liked the BM ... Secwas first at one time. Now]. 
'venting is good,, but it does not change life 

Lillywy00's picture

I never thought about it like that Harry and that's part of the reason I'm mad at myself because before I met him I set a boundary that I wouldn't date men with under 18 kids. 
 

I foolishly relaxed that boundary based on him saying his exwife was taking those kids out of town and they'd only be around on holidays and since I had a kid I thought he'd be a reasonable parent. I didn't realize his exwife couldn't hack it as a single parent, those kids would be right back in town next month, they'd be in my space every weekend, and he'd be a just as incapable single parent/gullible Disneyland dad with no boundaries of his own. 
 

Once this is over I am definitely either staying single or only dealing with men who have NO DEPENDENTS and that will absolutely be a deal breaker for me in the future. 

Lillywy00's picture

Ugh - he goes from  "I'm going to see the kids" to now "I'm going to get the kids and bring them back....is that cool with you" 

....yeah it's cool as long as you understand THIS (your lack of planning, boundaries, and structure) is why your ass will be getting left to go back to your single parent struggle. 

He admitted his clingy daughter blew his phone up last night even after he explained he was going out this weekend for his birthday (because she wasnt the center of his attention every waking minute, started crying because he didn't answer his phone and acting like she thought he was deceased) 

Girl BYE!!!

If this dude was deceased, wouldnt someone tell her? Wouldn't she simply ask whoever is taking care of her at the time?!?

Can you say 'manipulation tactics 401'

I was like this girl is ALWAYS fake crying if you're rightfully enjoying yourself like most adults and not answering your B*tch Beck & Call service. 

One day she went so far as to take pictures of herself crying (looking like she got kidnapped by the mafia and held for ransome although no kidnapper in their right mind would kidnap those kids), as a means of trying to trick him into answering the phone faster.

I could see a 2-5 year old acting like this but at the age of 11?!?

THIS is why this fool is getting left in the dust

StepUltimate's picture

Cheering for you Lillywy00! You are on your way to FREEDOM from this trainwreck turn-off situ, and I'm proud of you. 

Biggrin

Lillywy00's picture

Thank you! StepUltimate....I'm applying to my desired apartment today and hope I get accepted. 
 

while he disrupts the schedule to give into his manipulative attention seeking daughter, I am leaving the house before his con artist spawns touchdown and doing a discreet storage drop off day #8 
 

The upcoming freedom is so sweet I can almost see it, smell it, and taste it!

Catmom024's picture

Omg that's so crazy. Just wait until she's a teenager,  it's going to be even worse.   Thankfully you'll be long gone by then!!!