farewell..hope I never have the pleasure again..lol
Of having to be on this site..IF I get involved with a man with kids again..I will make sure that there is NO drama before I commit to anything.
My "dear" FH WAS cheating whole time with BM..so my insecurities were NOT unfounded. All that time I thought I was the crazy..jealous..accusing one..nope.
How did I find out? He dumped me AGAIN when I got angry one night because he was out front AGAIN with his friend drinking..two Saturdays in a row he went out "clubbin" with his friend supposedly when in fact he was out with other girls.
So I hacked into his email and lo and behold the proof..emails between him and the BM..dirty pics between the two of them...pictures of him having sex with another girl..
I packed my shytt..took a loan out of my 401k and moved into my new place this past Sat. My former Ss's birthday party was Sunday and guess who was there playing hostess and blowing out the candles? BM..
What a disgusting time of my life.
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OH Kaff
Im soo sorry to hear this, and I guess your gut was right the whole time..I hope for you you will pick yourself up and move on..Im sure its going to be hard at first, but remember if you need anything just let me know..Hugs to you girl..
"The future's uncertain and the end is always near." Jim Morrison
KAFF I am so sorry
What a prick.. If that is what he wants let him have her. She treated him like SH*T the first time and he will get his the second time. twice over. sometimes the best revenge is the life they create for them selves. LOSER! Did he admit it finally? He isn't worthy of you anyway. How sad for the boys though. Only people that don't care about even their own kids could and would put their own blood through all this...
big {{{{{HUGS}}}}} to you!!!
~~It's been said that parenting is the toughest job in the world. Wrong. It's the second toughest: Stepparenting wins hands down.~~
no he didn't
Admit it, but he didn't deny it..how can he? I saw the pictures and emails..so he just stayed quiet because he is a coward.
"He grew up in my heart, not my belly"
NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO
OMG...
I'm so so so so so sorry KAFF... I saw your myspace and I knew something was going on, and I have been trying to follow on you here but never posted anything.
WOW Girl, What a PIECE OF SH!T you had for FH... I'm glad you never married him... The one I feel really sorry for is SS5... You were his mother figure! What's gonna happen to him?
Oh how horrible
I'm sorry we were off playing and not here for you. I'm so angry on your behalf, but so glad that you know the truth and have the means to get the hell out of there.
And BM's wonder why SM's don't trust them.
OY VEY.
Of course my SD's BM THINKS he is leaving me for her and told SD's psychologist so years ago. Meanwhile she won't even talk to him on the phone. I'm lucky Kaf, that I don't have to distrust him or question.
Please take care of yourself and remember you were not the fool, you were deceived by one.
I really am sorry
to hear this. What a lying cheatind bastard. Every woman deserves a man to call her own and jus her own. ((((hugs)))) to you.
One can only hope!
OMG
You poor thing....I am soooo sorry to hear this, but glad you found out BEFORE you were married to him! What a jerk!
Oh Kaf
We should all trust our gut instincts more...
I'm so sorry to hear this. I hope things settle down for you.
In reading some of your posts I thought you were over-reacting
I'm truly sorry for that now and that I never responded.
I can only hope that you will find happiness in the future.
Take care and update us whenever you can!
Kaff I had a feeling this was going to happen.
Most wives don't go this crazy for no reason.
I'm sorry, but I'm glad that you found out and are out of there.
And dont' go anywhere. Just because you may not be a SM anymore doesn't mean that you don't know what it's like. I want you to stay and help keep me in line!
~All you need is Faith, Trust, and a little bit of Pixie Dust~
I'm guilty. I remember you posting something about being
"To Thine Own Self Be True" William Shakesphere
obsessed with her, when all along, you were really crying out that there is something wrong here.
I'm so sorry. He is so obviously a peice of crap, and you'll be so much better off without him (them).
Kaf ~
JamaicanMeCrazy
DISNEY LIED...THERE IS NO 'HAPPILY EVER AFTER'
I'm so sorry...the silver lining is at least you found out before you married the slimeball. I wish you the best, girl - you WILL find happiness with someone who treats you well,takes care of you and deserves you. (((Hugs))) & God bless!
I am really sorry this happened like this
I don't know what else to say except what an F'in jerk he is. You deserve way better!
Oh wow
What a schmuck! You did the right thing. He could have at least had the balls to be honest with you instead of making you think you were crazy.
Don't ever look back.
Karma
Good for you...bad for him, and nobody would deserve it more than a lying scumbag like that!
You deserve better and it will come to you for all you've been through.
Don't leave...you're still welcome and still have valid thoughts to offer...plus we're here for you.
Hugs LT
I'm so sorry!
You knew something was up all along. I'm so glad you found out in time. What makes me mad is all that time, he was turning things around and making you feel inadequate and crazy. What a jerk!!! Let the BM have him. They seem to deserve each other.
Love me or hate me, I'm still gonna shine!!!
Thank you to all
YES..I KNEW something was not right...and I was OBSESSED it's true..and I had good reason to..
When I saw all those pictures I was disgusted. For days I had been crying, begging him to work things out..and he just said no for no reason. He actually sent the picture of the girl he was sleeping with to his BOY!! with a note that said "this si what I'm ** right now..well I forwarded that email to baby mamma so she can see exactly what she is getting back. I have not said a word to her...I have no reason to.
To hear that she was in my house the DAY I moved out playing mamma again KILLED me..I kept myself busy and thank God I have some VERY close male friends that had my back and were there to cheer me up.,and than of course my best friend to bring me out and get me drunk..lol
Now he is saying he is confused..WTF! Oh well!! Good riddens to bad rubbish. He didn't think I had the means to move out.
I feel VERY bad for my SS. I have not seen him and he has not allowed me contact and he is being bounced around between sitters right now and the X's house.
"He grew up in my heart, not my belly"
Kaff
Why would you resort to begging and pleading with this man? Is he really worth sacrificing your self respect for? NO man is worth that! You are worth way more than this animal which reminds me...do yourself a favor and get tested. No telling where he's been!
hi sasha
I was beggin and pleading BEFORE I saw those pics...there was a few days where I was in the house a mess..didn't go to work..and he wasn't coming home. I assumed he was staying at his moms..but no..he was at some other girls' house one night and the BM another. I did got to the doctor yesterday and got fully tested..thank GOD I came back clean. I had been making him wear protection though since my miscarriage since I had not been on the pill.
"He grew up in my heart, not my belly"
Good Gog, girl
I am so sorry! And disgusted, too. What a total tool! You deserve better and he's a peice of shit. Don't look back, Kaff!
OMG
That is the sickest thing ever. Thank god you did not marry that cheap cowardly bastard.
Kaff, I hope for SUCH better things for you -- you deserve it, you're GORGEOUS and you should settle for nothing less than a superhero to spend your life with. Big hugs, and lots of strength and clarity to you!
BB
- You are not second best, you are not second class. Do not ever let anyone make you feel that way. (2Bloved)
wow.....
I haven't been around much....and u KNOW...if I was closer, I'd be with u right now....man....I could kick his ass for what he did to you....I am SOOOOOOO angry right now....don't u dare even speak to him, kaff.....what a piece of crap that treats the woman who loves HIS child so badly.....u stay strong my friend!!!!.....(((((((((((((HUGS)))))))))))))))))))
"You can catch more flies with honey than you can with vinegar"
Kaff..
I'm very proud of you for loving yourself and having faith in yourself. Being well aware that you deserve far better than the likes of him.
All will be well. There's billions of people on this planet and you just found out that he wasn't the one for you...try out some others, you'll find the right fit.
You've learned a valuable lesson in what you don't want, and that's a good thing.
Big hugs.
"For every ailment under the sun....There is a remedy, or there is none;
If there be one, try to find it; If there be none, never mind it." ~ W.W. Bartley
You've Got To Be Kidding Me
Kaff, I just read your blog, and I am so sorry to hear what happened, that really sucks!, just keep yourself together, and be strong, and next time take it slow!
*Waves to Kaff
Congratulations on your newfound freedom from insanity! I'm so sorry it worked out this way. What a total and utter shithead. Sending you support and big hugs and great wishes for your awesome, wonderful asshole-free future!
i noticed
that you had not posted for some time and checked myspace.....im so sorry you had to go through all of this! what a complete and utter POS! thank god you no longer have this sorry excuse for a man in your life! and even more importantly, you were able to get out with your health!!! guys just dont care about how disgustingly dirty it is to sleep around.
So Sorry Kaff
I also believe in karma...and he will get his and so will BM. You are so much better off without that scum bag! And your instincts were right on. Stay well and be happy. And please let us know how you are doing! There are lots of good guys out there..that do not have kids...and I'm sure you will find one when you are ready!
Sorry dear
At least you know you weren't crazy! re. BM. So wrong, there is no excuse for him doing this. I wish you luck honey and a GREAT guy, that is what you deserve.
You don't have to leave ST, you know! We would love to hear the happy ending!!
"It's funny how dogs and cats know the inside of folks better than other folks do, isn't it?"
- Eleanor H. Porter (1868 - 1920), 'Pollyanna', 1912
This just goes to show...
... that one should ALWAYS trust their "gut" feeling!
Good for you for getting out Kaff. He didn't deserve you.
Terrible
I am so so sorry. The way you must be feeling now I couldn't even imagine! You are really good to just stay away from him and heal. I wouldn't be shocked if he came crawling back and you don't want ANY of that!
Sorry to hear that Kaffonseca
I followed your stories daily; I was saddened to read your latest blog. Things didn't work out for you this time but please don't lose faith. I'm confident that true love is waiting for you somewhere. File this under "loser" and move on. After what he did to you - breaking up with him is a real blessing in disguise.
Of course, I know it hurts and it sucks and for that I'm sending you lots of hugs.((())).
Sorry to hear your news
It gave me a bad feeling when he made a date, though. Good for you for taking such decisive action. BM certainly isn't get much and it sounds like they deserve each other. You are too good for such crap.
Good luck to you!
Good luck to you! Everything WILL be much better...And please, DO NOT get involved with a man with kids unless the ex-wife is dead...save yourself the heartache...
Kaff
I'm so sorry about all that you've had to go though. I am very proud of you for having the strenth to leave him in the dust and move forward. You deserve better and you will find it one day. Keep in touch! Just because you and that loser are no more doesn't mean that you have to go into hiding.