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Mothers with bipolar disorders

japanspring's picture

Do you think mothers diagnosed with bipolar disorders should have children?

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Willow2010's picture

I think we would need more info than that. I know someone that is bipolar and a mom and she does ok.

Willow2010's picture

LOL!!

japanspring's picture

I am not saying that all bipolar mothers are on the same boat.
My stepson’s mother has been diagnosed with BP when she was a teenager: unstable emotionally, a pathological liar, aggressive, manipulative, always considering herself a victim. She meets this guy, mu husband, who treats her nice and tries to help her keep up with her therapy. But it did not work. After a history of abusing him emotionally, he breaks up with her. But unfortunately for him, she gets pregnant and doesn’t tell him until the 5th month of the pregnancy. After the baby is born, he decides to take her back and makes things work out for the child’s sake. Things get worse. She neglects her child letting the father (my husband) do all the work: take care of the child, her, the house (he was the only person in the house. She was not working stating that nobody wants to hire her even though she had a few offers.)
She keeps provoking him to the extent that one night he has to call the police to remove her from his residence.( she took the baby and locked herself in the bedroom threatening that she was going to kill herself).That night when she left, she took the baby with her and disappeared for almost a year. Anybody from her family didn’t want to tell him where the baby was.
That’s why I posted that question.

Should women like this one have children? Did the child inherit any features of her illness?

japanspring's picture

Even with medication she is not able to take care of him. Is it a question of priorities and incapacity?
When the kid goes to visit her, he spends 90% of the time at his aunt’s house, not with his mother.

mystiery's picture

I am bi polar and think it is ok to an extent. There are some of us out there that can handle it and some of us who just are way out in left field.

japanspring's picture

In a way I agree with you guys. But my point is that you(and I am talking in general)know that you suffer from a mental illness, are aware of the fact that you are not capable to take care of a child. But yet you choose to have him because having a child would secure your future and the child's father would take care of both the child and you. If you see that your plan hasn't work, you abandon your child, let other woman take care of him and, then you complain and act evil because your are jelous that your ex partner is happy with someone else.
My stepson's mother doesn't think of her child's happiness, she thinks of her own happiness. She is not happy that the child is safe and well taken care of by someone else.

How does that sound?

japanspring's picture

See, nobody wants to take the kid away from her. But when she has him, she dumps him on someone else's lap(parents, sister).They don't express any desire to help her, they make her feel guilty that she lets her son stay with another woman(me).And she acts evil because they are right. she doesn't make any effort to at least try to take care of him always inventing excuses.

japanspring's picture

That's in her mind. That someone wants to take her child away from her.
Anyway, she abandoned him and now blames everybody, me most of the time, for her actions.

sweetthing's picture

My husband is bipolar and all 3 children at this point appear to be fine. They are all healthy, happy outgoing children.

hismineandours's picture

yes I think mothers with bipolar should have children if they are in a place in which they can care for them. We are all some kind of crazy-many people with bipolar are on meds, in treatment and probably far more harmless than all the rest of the crazy people out there that will not admit having a problem.

A person with no mental health dx can still be a shitty, horrible parent. Just as a person with a mental health dx can be a great parent.

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