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Please help i am having trouble liking my step sons.

HolymolyMoose's picture

I've been with my bf for 2 years we just had a baby. He doesnt like my four year old son well because hes 4 and going through 4 years old stuff. But I also don't like his 8 year old or his 3 year old. His 8 year old plays video games nonstop, he's rude and mouthy, if he gets southing taken away at his moms house he will go in her room and take it back. If someone says somethibg he doesnt like he will hit them even his parents. Pickiest eater ever!!! He's affraid to go to the bathroom so he holds it for 12 hours. If we are playing games like cards or a board game and he's not winning He will whine and throw a fit and the the pieces of the game. He only drinks soda after his dad tells him no on something his will give a sneaky smile and go ask someone else. Hes spoiled rotten and eats nothing but pb and j and pizza. Both of his kids teeth are rotting out of the face because of the sugar and no one having them brush their teeth. His youngest is worse. Hes 3 no potty training in site. I dont mean to be mean about it but I kinda thing the youngest has a learning disability. He can hardly talk, hardly walks, has horrible fits. Neither of the kids eat a vegetable or anything healthy.when they are at their moms (she lives with my BFS mom) the boys sleep with the grandma. Please ive tried to fix some of these problems but nothing works and I'm at my wots end with all of it I dread them coming over. My son used to get in trouble for some of the things they did and he wasnt even remotely close to the fits these kida throw. I guess I have resentment for my son getting in troubke and his kids hardly get a look.if feel horrible for not liking them around. Please what should I do ive tried talking to their dad about the stiff that bothers me and the fact that my son ised to get introuble for some of the stuff but it gets brushed off. 

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SteppedOut's picture

He doesn't like your child and you don't like his.

It sounds as though you have tried talking to him about his (lack of) parenting skills and he doesn't agree. Yet, he is hard on your son when it comes to disapline (if this is true, it is very unfair for your son).  

Do you think he will suddenly change? Do you think your feelings for his children will suddenly change?

 

thinkthrice's picture

get out for the sake of YOUR kid

ESMOD's picture

I don't know for the life of me why someone would want to have a child with someone who they clearly believe to be a bad father.  I mean.. he doesn't do a good job parenting the two he already has...

And.... honestly.. it sounds like neither of you like each others kids.. it doesn't sound like your kid is likely acting any better than his.... you downplay your kid's behaviors.. just like your BF is doing with his.

I think all of your kids are going to be happier if you don't stay with him.

HolymolyMoose's picture

You might be right I might down play my sons actions I've taken steps to correct it such as taekwondo where he learns respect, and discipline. Also have been taking parenting classes. I'm honestly not sure why we had a child together. I guess in my mind I thoughmaube hes just avoiding his kids because of the ex wife? Stupid me. I am planning on leaving because of how everything is going now and how its getting worse. I'd rather be single and not miserable and spend time with my children.