Tylenol and a Nap PLEASE!
How do I handle the BM having her BD call the SS asking when he's coming back? My SS said "Look just cause you're back doesn't mean I have to come back." This poor kid just wants to stay here with me and DH. I learned a LOT of new information last night regarding SS staying with BM. He went into a deal and kept going.
He listed every reason why he doesn't want to go including:
Sleeping on a couch
Bed in basement is not okay because there are bugs in basement
HS flips him off, curses, yells, and bites him
Does not care for either BM's Fiance NOR Fiance's Dad
Had a 'friend' who has been extremely mean to him, including hitting.
This list goes ON AND ON. Hopefully soon DH and I can save up for a good Lawyer and fix this. Everything right now is all mutual. There is no child support or scheduled visits. Only thing that drives me buts in regards to things we pay for is his cell phone. We pay for the phone, including the upgrade he got for his birthday and when he acts out with BM she takes the phone. Knowing he has it to contact us if he needs us.
I've got a headache....I need a tylenol and a nap after today.
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Your dh should be taking him
Your dh should be taking him to get these bites and bruises documented by the pediatrician and filing for an emergency custody order at the courthouse. If you're going to bring up all these things as reasons to get custody they will want to know why you didn't act on it and instead waited to "save up for a lawyer". If you truly believe he is in harms way you act now to get him out of there.
This is the first time he's
This is the first time he's said anything and I checked him over and there are no marks. I've started keeping a written log of everything. SS only tells me these things when DH is at work so tonight when he comes home I will have a talk with him and make sure SS is in another room while we talk.
EDIT: He had mentioned the biting when we brought him home on Father's Day. He was checked over then. My bad worded it weird.
Also...he may not be telling
Also...he may not be telling you the truth. Definitely, yes, look to see if you can find anything to suggest he's not safe there but it wouldn't be the first time a skid says they're made to sleep on a floor and smacked around and not fed (you get the idea) to BOTH sides...
You have a good point it's
You have a good point it's just another thing to keep an eye on. Just irritates me. This kid is great and he just hates being there...
None of these sound like good
None of these sound like good enough reasons for a judge to change skid's living arrangements. Where I am from we don't have basements (swamplands) so I don't know what type of living conditions that entails but we do have a good amount of mosquitoes so bug bites aren't really a sign of neglect. The kid not having a liveable bedroom might work in yalls favor if yall can prove there are bugs. But that's a lot of money, time and drama to waste on the slight chance that a judge will see this as anything other than a dramatic teen trying to flip houses
If I were the judge I would say the kid is playing yall like a fiddle