DH is driving five hours one way to spend three days with SD20 at her college for family weekend or some such nonsense. He tried to push through on me that our two BDs would go, and when I got upset he backed off and said he would let our BDs decide. BD10 quickly told him no, she has activities she doesn't want to miss and they just saw SD20 a month ago. BD7 waffled more, telling both me and DH she wanted to go. But last night she told me she does NOT want to go.

I know this is a petty thing, but it irks me. DH is now on a shift where he works four days in a row, all day. Sees the kids in the morning only two days and not at all the other two days. So four days they barely see him. Today is his first day off. He saw them maybe 30 minutes this morning and just informed me he's going to meet some work buddies for drinks tonight, so they will not see him again tonight. It's like he's already got one foot out the door emotionally, who wouldn't want to spend time with their kids after not having seen them in four days? DH, I guess.

Maybe I'm exaggerating a bit. But...

Before I get into details, let me set up things. DH wants to take our two BDs (10 and 7) to see SD at her college on "family" weekend. It's 5 hours away, he works every weekend, she's a junior, he has gone before. Both BDs have weekend activities, BD10's are mandatory (agreed when we signed up she would not miss them). We discussed this previously and I thought agreed BDs probably could not go. I now find out:

I often think DH has his head so far up his a#s it's not funny. And yes, this pertains primarily to SD20. But there were so many parenting moments where he could have stepped up to the plate and said, "I'll handle this." But he didn't, because SD20 had/has him whipped.