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Sun Tzu's Art of War (Part 4)

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Submitted by Drac0 on Tue, 04/16/2013 - 8:50am

Wars with the ex takes its toll on us. We try to not let them get to us, but it does affect us. If it is one thing we must take to heart - after we put our emotions to one side that is - is that every battle with the adversarial ex is also an opportunity to learn a little something on them. Previous conflicts help us to prepare (or avoid) future conflicts. Sun Tzu students have often misunderstood his message when it comes to this. Some believed that Sun Tzu plans, analyzes and strategizes each and every attack.

Sun Tzu's Art of War (Part 3)

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Submitted by Drac0 on Mon, 04/15/2013 - 9:04am

Sun Tzu spends some time in the next section discussing the various states of armies about to engage in battle. A lot of Sun Tzu’s discussion seems like common sense and once again encourages a leader to act with discretion. Moreover, Sun Tzu encourages leaders to study his foe and the composition of his armies at every opportunity. What we saw in the last post, is that things fare a lot better for us stepparents and our SOs if we are capable of uniting under a single banner ready to fight for something we BOTH want.

Sun Tzu's Art of War (Part 2)

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Submitted by Drac0 on Fri, 04/12/2013 - 7:43am

Moving right along, Sun Tzu spends a lot of effort into preparing his student for the fight. Preparing for a battle is equally, if not more important, then battle strategy. Our emotions cannot lead us into battle. Neither can we allow ourselves to venture into any conflict without some kind of intelligence. But the biggest factor that we must first consider, is cost.

Lesson 2: “He who wishes to fight, must first count the cost”

Sun Tzu's Art of War (Lesson 1)

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Submitted by Drac0 on Thu, 04/11/2013 - 9:26am

I have decided to start a series of Sun Tzu’s "The Art of War" blogs – they are extracts from books, internet, etc. This is mostly for your reading pleasure and a fun way to see how we can use his philosophy in our challenges with dealing with our SO's ex. In no way am I implying that these are viable strategies. There may be some kernels of insights here, but nothing more. I have read them and have given them to my wife to read. In certain instances where we seem to be at an impasse when dealing with my wife's ex, Sun Tzu’s philosophy has aided us.

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Submitted by Drac0 on Wed, 04/03/2013 - 9:03am

A year ago, someone posted this. I thought it summarized quite nicely how most of us feel.

We're not allowed to discipline the kid AND we're not allowed to agree to not discipline? We're not allowed to teach the kid AND we're not allowed to agree to not teach the kid? We're allowed to purchase a new home, carpet it AND not allowed to tell a skid to pick her bloody tampons up off the floor?

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