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Submitted by cant win for losin on Sat, 04/11/2015 - 9:39pm

Well, when the exh received his psych eval. (Daignosis: narcissistic)
He updated his Facebook status with the most stereotypical narcissistic type post one could ever say.
"Time to give up the fight even though i know im right and can win."

WTF :jawdrop: Hey dummy, im pretty sure that with your diagnosis, failed anger test, and failed parenting test, you had no chance in hell of winning. But hey keep living that narc dream!

So, what does someone do when they know they are right, and CAN win?

They drop their case!!!!

Yup, got the paper today. Him and his lawyer wrote the court stating he wishes to drop his petition after reviewing the psych evaluations.

The monkey is off my back. I feel a great weight that shouldve been lifted years ago when i filed for divorce from this abusive fucker, is finally off my shoulders

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Submitted by mom2futuresuperhero on Sat, 04/11/2015 - 9:42pm

I have a FB book friend who post from the Narcissist page all the time. Pretty funny/acurate stuff. I will look it up for you and you can like and post away. I am on that now.

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Submitted by mom2futuresuperhero on Sat, 04/11/2015 - 9:44pm

The facebook page is Stop Narcissistic Abuse. Post the shit out of it. You know someone he knows stalks your page. It is fakebook after all. Smile

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Submitted by cant win for losin on Sun, 04/12/2015 - 8:52pm

You are correct tog. It will only be a matter of time before I get paper from him for her. If it won't be custody papers, it will be child support when my son graduates.

Neither one will be a fighting battle like this, as I AM always thinking about the kids and not myself.

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Submitted by Ex4life on Sun, 04/12/2015 - 9:52am

So where does this leave your custody time at? Your BS will obviously live with you but will he be spending weekends at his dad's? What about your DD? How will this affect her as well? What does she want to happen? If he is running with his tail between his legs it sounds like a great time to change her time as well if that is what she and you feel should be done. I hope you BS can now relax and enjoy his final year/s of high school. Maybe this will allow time for them to heal so they can one day rebuild their relationship.

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Submitted by cant win for losin on Sun, 04/12/2015 - 9:02pm

Well, I will go speak to my lawyer tomorrow as the final court date was set for this coming week. I was only asking for full parenting time and not full custody, at the counsel of my lawyer. Apparently custody is harder to get but more parenting time is easier. These psych evals could change that. But at the same time it truly doesn't matter as my son is over the age of 17 anyway. In less than a year he will be 18. No matter what the outcome of this case was gonna be he wasn't gonna have to go visit his father anymore anyway.

The recommendation of the psych as far as parenting time went, was to allow BS to visit when he wants.

Because this case had nothing to do with DD she technically is still suppose to be 50/50. EOW. She has been manipulated against me, and honestly our relationship needed this break. Sadly her psych eval ended up what I thought it would be as well. She mirrors a lot of her father. She does love me and does miss me, but the "benefits" of being an only child at her father's out weigh the deficits of keeping things as they were.

I am damned if I do and damned if I don't with her. It has always been that way, will always be that way. So I do the best I can with my current knowledge with her. I haven't given up on her, and never will. I just tread carefully while she lives under her fathers roof. In her own way and with out her knowing she is a victim of his as well. :/

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Submitted by cant win for losin on Sun, 04/12/2015 - 9:29pm

And then what? Believe you me, those thoughts have crossed my mind. And if she was much younger I probably would. At this point, it would be forcing a child who does NOT want to live with me, to live with me.

She would be miserable. My son would be miserable. And well it would make me miserable. I know this sounds absolutely horrible, (and trust me I'm in counseling for this as well) but my DD bring a certain "tension" with her. It's almost so hard to explain. It's not just a me and her thing either. She is not a very nice person. Sad
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She had to take the same hostility test my son had to take and she failed. "High enough to be of concern" She has always been a more difficult child. Mean to her brother. I can remember our very dear daycare lady talk about how she just cannot believe how MEAN bd is to bs. But what has always made it worse, is the fact that bd KNOWS she is mean, and honestly doesn't care.

This whole entire situation was a long time coming. Not just for me and her, but father and son as well. It will take a long while to repair. And sometimes distance, treading lightly at the beginning in sense a time out is the best. I gave her's and mine relationship the time out it needed.

Her grandfather passed and I sent her a message offering my condolences. (no response) She saw me and DD4 at school one day and went up to us to see us. I know it was more to see DD4 and that is fine. She did not ignore my questions, but I can tell that too many questions would make her uncomfortable. I kept it to a couple questions, and kept the rest to interpreting what dd4 was saying. lol BD voiced she missed DD4 and I reassured her that she was welcomed ANYTIME to visit her. After that I sent a message thanking for stopping to see us (we wouldn't have seen her if she didn't see us and call out DD4 name) I told her that DD4 enjoyed it. That I enjoyed seeing her very much. I also said that I love her. "yup" was the response. Sad :?

I sent an Happy easter message that was responded with at least a thank you and you too. And a happy birthday message with again a thank you.

Her brother and her have also exchanged words. Nothing cross or negative. Soo, SOMETHING is better than nothing. Biggrin

I have no doubts that her and I will have something in the future. It will just be slow, and probably always fragile.

I know living with her father is not the best. but i think i would do more damage to her and i if I forced her hand to live with me. Anything that I have done concerning her, I always had to make the choice of the lesser two evils. Cause either way I can't win.