yucks mom took them shopping for xmas ss16 got an iphone and ss12 got a 3d tv! yep you read right!

now ss16 says to ss12 "i wish I had a 3d tv to play my xbox on"...ss12 without missing a beat said "not my fault you got something stupid"...lmao... }:)

BM informed us five days ago that she intended to drop the boys off 3 hours late on Christmas. DH told her no. She extended the lateness to 4 hours. DH told her no again. She extended the lateness to 5 hours.

Christmas morning comes. Noon comes. No kids. So, DH spent about three hours talking to different police departments across the state trying to track his kids down and get someone to tell BM she had to bring the kids back.

We got them 3.5 hours late, but we got them.

So, they've spent the last 9 days with crazy a$$ BM, and are back to entitlement central.

Sorry this is off topic but I just have to get this out. I'm so heartbroken right now I can't even think straight. DH and I are officially over as of tonight. I love this man with all my heart and don't want to loose him. He says that we can't work out our problems and I know that should be the end for me too, why should I care if he doesn't? The problem is I do care. I love him and SS so much. I couldn't breath when they left earlier.

This is my second Christmas with SO. That also means my second Christas with his kids. He gets his kids for a week at Christmas break. I have no say in the matter, that is just the way it is and always will be. That already pisses me off because I would prefer holidays without them. At least their mom packed their weeks worth of holiday clothes full of their very best sweatpants!!! Nothing like a famliy dinner with two kids dressed like they are in pajamas!!

Tomorrow my youngest stepson turns 19 (the age of majority in this state). So the CS has finished and DH is no longer tied to ANY decision mentioned in the decree.

Ugh!

SD has been such a freaking pain...My sister and aunt (both children and family therapists) have gone into professional mode just to keep everything somewhat drama free today...

She keeps bossing and fighting with my cousins who are avoiding her like the plague...My aunt has been trying to get them to play with her or something, but they're through with her...It was a stretch as it was as they're so much older than she is...They'll let her hang with them, then 5 minutes later, she's yelling and bossing them, and they're walking away...

Skids don't even have to be around to ruin Christmas. None of my husband's adult kids have visited our home in over 6 years. It's been 7 years since any of them have been here for Christmas. That sounds fantastic, but it isn't. It's like this gigantic elephant in the corner. His kids refuse to have anything to do with me or my kids and Dh pretends like there's nothing wrong with this.

DH and I have not fully gotten along since ss16 moved in full time. The kids have ways driven a wedge when they are here and 90% of the time I grin and bear till I can't anymore.... I can't do it anymore....

1st: ss16 is a total slob, he has 2 rooms in our house and both of them are filthy, and he has 50% of my dishes on the dirty.... Finally for the last 2 weeks I hVe broken down and told DH I cannot be someones maid, DH is out of work so I've been paying for everything, not exactly thrilled about another set of bills but I suck it up.....

After an email fight with XH, in which I pointed out that he legally HAD to send me my middle 2 PAS'd kids, I had a pleasant Christmas.

I had decided that for my PAS'd kids, I would get them a little something each. I didn't get a gift card or money, as that seemed a bit impersonal, so I got them things that I knew that they would like. Even if they derided it to my face, deep down they will know that I care, and that I know the real them.

Crappy, crappy SD16, 19, 21 ....dont know why I expected better attitudes at Christmas SHAME ON ME! DH gives them each a present and money but he didnt receive even a card or thank you. Children showed up late Christmas morning because they were tired from Christmas eve with their mother. SD21 didnt even bother to call. I did not hold present time from my 5 and 15 year old due to the entitles step brats. We cooked breakfast and they refused because their mother had better stuff waiting. You could see the hurt in DH eyes.