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Biological Dads Please Answer...

love him_loath his kid's picture

Biological Dad's please answer!!!

It seems that some guys are accepting of their SO feelings towards the BF kids. I cannot stand my SO son and it really sucks because I feel like what I am willing to give the kid (respect and acceptance) isn't enough for my SO. I have never lied to my SO and have told him how I feel about his child. A lot of the time I feel like he is trying to force a family situation when one does not and will not exist. I believe he feels guilty that his son comes from a broken home and while that is a bummer it is not my fault. I love my guy and I'd love to get married and have children with him but I just don't want to feel pressured into feelings I don't have for his BS. Any ideas on how to express my feelings in a way he might understand? I'll take any suggestions, preferably realistic ones!!!

Not_what_I_wanted's picture

Very true. Once you say it out loud, it changes everything. Our counselor even said to keep it quiet. You dont need to "share" your true feeling about your spouse' child with your spouse, you just need to be respectful of them. I mentioned I didnt love SO's daughter, and he was floored. I didnt realize he expected me to, as she isnt mine and I hardly know her.

ExArmydad's picture

Thanks for saying that, I've often considered sharing my true feelings to my wife about her daughter. I was recently complaining a lot to her about the kid and she got pissed at me for even saying what I said. So my true feelings will be kept to myself.

Thanks again!