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STEPMOM TO SD SO HARD!

Lovethyself123's picture

Sad Hello,
So I am engaged to my soon to be husband. He is a great man. But, he has a daughter and I have a son but this is the first time I been with someone with children. My fiance is the man of my dreams. But, I dont want to deal with a child that is not mine. He BM ask him recently can she have more kids with him. She dont like me and that fine. I do everything for SD buy clothes shoes do her hair something I feel I shouldn't be doing. She is a okay kid but it just seems like I feel drained around her. BM threatened my fiance she going put him on child support. And its like he will do whatever he have to so she dont. I am just ready to leave. But I love him. He dont interact with my son. He keeps his distance and it dont bother me I just wanna do the same to his kid but then he will get mad. I just want my own kids. I want our kids together. I dont hate SD I just feel drained when she is around. She comes over every weekend and me and fiance never can spend time together. I just dont know what to do. She always texting him with threats and I dont like that. I am on the edge.

blayze's picture

Is he really that great if he's hands-off with your son, but expects you to be hands-on with his daughter? He should definitely get court ordered visitation along with a child support order or BM will always hold the cards. Is that really a situation you want until death do you part?

P.S. Marrying a father of a daughter with a crazy BM is one of the stupidest things us women can do if we value peace, trust, happiness, and loving relationships. Unless you like misery, give the ring back to him until you no longer feel drained by his baggage.

SavvyKim's picture

My advice - run for the hills, it does not get any better when they are older, they still hang onto their father's shirt tails x

hereiam's picture

Why are you doing all of this for his daughter, instead of him doing for his daughter?

So, he will continue jump to BM's demands, to avoid paying child support?

Sounds like a real winner. Why would you want to have kids with this guy?