Was I wrong for asking my stepson to do this???
Hello everyone this is my first time posting on a forum I have been with my husband for four years and we have had problems throughout most of our relationship it seems like every week we get into a huge discussion and argument and he mainly starts it and does it in front of the children. This past Sunday my husband had sent his son to take a bath, my husband was outside working on his truck it was already late in the evening, it was actually close to 10 PM the problem is I normally send my son to sleep at night because he wakes up at 5:40 in the morning for school so without thinking I was going to cause any problems I thought it was going to upset my husband I told my stepson to take a shower in our bathroom instead of the bathroom that the boys share that is located inside my sons room. I only did it out of simple respect towards my son and didn't find absolutely nothing wrong with my stepson taking a shower in our bathroom but my husband came up and noticed that his son was coming out of our bathroom and got hysterical he started getting upset saying ugly things and being disrespectful he even grabbed one of the kitchen table chairs and threw it On the floor which then caused my son to wake up and get upset. It has now been six days since the incident and he still says that I was wrong for doing that but I was simply doing it and preference of my son and did it with bad intentions towards my stepson and I just don't understand why he thinks that. However throughout our whole pregnancy he has always made me seem like I am a bad person and deep down in my heart I truly believe that I am not in that I was not in the wrong for doing what I did Sunday night which was simply asking my stepson to just take a shower in our bathroom instead of the one that was inside my sons room. Taking mine are steps and does not live with us but does come with us on the weekends and that is why my son has the room with the bathroom in it we have a house with three bedrooms and three baths one guest into that are located and two bedrooms. My husband has history of being verbally abusive and at one point physically but it's been two years since he put his hands on me from the last time I'm not putting up for him but he does tend to get to my mind sometimes and I question my self was I wrong for doing that please help me understand if I was.
"My husband has history of
"My husband has history of being verbally abusive and at one point physically but it's been two years since he put his hands on me from the last time I."
Whether you were right or wrong does not matter.
All that matters is that you are living with a man who abuses you. Getting yourself and your children away from your abuser should be your focus.
Let me echo Echo
Let me echo Echo here....please, please...love yourself, and your son, more.....put yourself outside the situation and see how wrong this is, how hurtful to both of you.
I'm not even reading this
I'm not even reading this whole thing. Your husband needs help and you need to get the kids out of there. The fact that broke a chair is a major red flag and unacceptable. Your children saw that violence which in itself can be considered emotional abuse. What happens the next time he gets really mad and instead hurts one of you.
RUN.
This is not the way a loving
This is not the way a loving person behaves. Please at least call a domestic violence hotline and learn your options.
The F?? Girl you are being
The F?? Girl you are being abused plain and simple. Unless his son is ripping tiles off the wall and pulling out the plumbing with his bare hands there is NO reason to flip out like that about taking a shower.
The National Domestic
The National Domestic Violence Hotline 1-800-799-7233 http://www.thehotline.org/
Call and tell your story to someone and get the help you need.
how old are your sons? I
how old are your sons?
I was with a man like this - I couldn't handle it. you have to put yourself first and know that you deserve better. And what's worse is your son will see you being disrespected and maybe do the same to you someday because he thinks you will tolerate it. sounds wrong but it happens.
please get away from this low life jerk. you deserve better. don't subject yourself and your son to his nonsense anymore.
Echo echo Don't expose your
Echo echo
Don't expose your son to this! It's not fair and he will likely abuse too if he grows up with this.
The guy was out of order. Completely. Totally. Utterly.
He has a stepson too who gets up very early in the morning. Why doesn't he care about his SS the way he wants you to care about yours?
Re-read your post then call
Re-read your post then call your attorney to file for a restraining order and divorce. Why tie your star to a physically and verbally abusive POS?
Take care of you and nail his ass to the monster $CS wall for eternity and do what is necessary to protect you and your children from this POS and minimize the exposure of your own kids to this asshole. Even if one or more of your BioKids are his too. No kid deserves to lose the parent lottery that severely and have to witness any man abuse their mother. Even if that man is their own father. If your sons are anything like my brother and I ending this relationship will actually be saving your hopefully STBX's life. If any man treated our mother the way your asshole husband treats you he would be scraping his brains off of the pavement after my brother and I got done with him. Even if that asshole was our own father. Fortuntely... my dad would end the existence of any man who treated his wife/our mom that way before my brother and I would have to.
OMG this POS pisses me off to no end. Grrrrrr!
Good luck.
And no, you weren't wrong.
And no, you weren't wrong. You were being an adult and considering the situation at hand.