Now I'm the villian...
So my husband told his ex about me moving out due to my issues with their brat kid and she apparently freaked out. She said that I knew the kid was there all along and now I'm having an issue with him. I wish I could go up to her and say: "Well you knew you were lesbian the whole time so why did you merry a man?!" I don't intend any offense to anyone who is in a same sex relationship so please don't misunderstand me. My problem is that I think she seriously just used my husband so she could have a kid. Because she came out to him less than a month after giving birth. Prior to this she had several crushes on other women from her work but she kept telling him that she was not lesbian. So in her mind this was all ok and I am the evil one because I don't want to deal with her skid. Plus, his parents now have a problem with me and say I am just so immature because I cant handle their precious grandson. Yet with my husbands ex in their eyes did no wrong and they still have regular contact with her. Doesn't seem to matter that she was abusive to their son physically and mentally and then toped it off with lying to him about being gay.
Again, I don't have a problem with gays or lesbians, I just don't trust his ex because I think she is a manipulator and I am made to look like the villain.
Has anyone else been in a similar situation?
Why would his ex care if you
Why would his ex care if you move out?
No, but a friend of mine was.
No, but a friend of mine was. He was in a relationship with a woman for about a year, and was delighted when she became pregnant. A few months later, she left him and returned to her former, female, partner. He figured he had been used for sperm. She'd broken his heart, but the hits didn't stop there. He fought long and hard for just visitation, as she lied and said that he had hit her. She interfered with visitation, still does sometimes. Didn't want him to take his son to visit his family, etc etc.
I don't know what your problem is - but I can tell you from the get-go, wasting any of your precious time or energy feeling like you need to justify yourself to someone you don't like, don't respect and don't trust is just that, a waste. You owe her nothing.
I think it's best if you just cut contact with your husband for a while too. It can't be fun for him to feel like he can't be with you because he loves his child, so give him some space. If the issue is his parenting, he can get help and improve. If the issue is that you are not willing to share him with his child, then you need to move on and find someone else with no children.
What does her being gay have
What does her being gay have anything to do with the whole situation? It doesn't matter why they didn't work out, they just didn't. A LOT of people don't know they are gay for sure until they are older. She may have been lying to your SO but you don't know that unless she says it. And, she could be bisexual or any myriad of sexual orientations.
Yes, that is what I was
Yes, that is what I was trying to say thank you.
One of the best things about
One of the best things about not being with your DH: never having contact with BM again. Focus on yourself and screw what others think.
It appears as though your DH
It appears as though your DH is running to BM and badmouthing you to her and then running to you and telling you what she says? Also, he has apparently done the same with his parents? I'd say your main problem is with DH and not BM or skid.