Yesterday morning we were out of half and half AGAIN because SD13 uses it for her cereal sometimes (dh has told her not to but you all know that's meaningless), because she doesn't want to use the whole milk or she'll use it in her mac n cheese instead of milk.

The milk container was left empty in fridge and no note to get more was on list, everyone knows my rules. I don't mind getting things that are essential and no one makes assumptions about what I do.

So I stopped at store on way home and picked up a small container of half and half for mine and DHs coffed this morning. After we're done I put it on door, out of the line of sight.

I do my thing as DH and I are getting ready to go for a walk. I hear SD13 complaining in kitchen about no milk. DH says to her, well waht else do you want for breakfast? (We have at least three other things she could have). When I go into Kitchen a few minutes later, SD13 is sitting there with her cereal and the half and half next to her. Oh no I say, that's for our coffee. She says, but daddy said I could. DH comes in and says, yes, she's out of milk.

WELL that sets me off. Unacceptable. I state why I bought the small container and why we're out of milk. DH tells me I'm over reacting. We continue​ argument as we leave then he threatens he's not going to walk with me if I'm going to ruin the mood. !!!

I tell him he's darn well going to walk with me because we are going to discuss the situation. So we do. He quickly gets it's​ more than just the freaking milk and me using my money (although yes that's a part of it). I said I'm​ sick of ths one monitoring the essentials and no one helping and I bought the stuff for a specific reason. SD13 furthermore could have had x, y, or z for breakfast​ instead​ but nooooo she gets what she wants and everyone else be damned.

He had nothing but protests.

We continue that he does do some grocery shopping and contributes money to my trips. Yes, you do but I'M the one to do the major trips and the one who watches what we need, not just making fill in trips and the one who had to stop cleaning up empty containers because no one else knows what to do with them. And that if I say anything​ about any of it I get shut down. No you don't, you can say things. No DH I have no authority with the SDs because you don't let me. Yes I do! If you did you would've let me say no to that​ half and half and not undermined me. That's it. You don't really let me have any rules and yes, I get frustrated and PO'd. It will continue like that.

So at least that's stated again.

So grocery shopping today I put an extra third of the cost on his card. I also bought my own flavored creamer so no one else will use it. He thinks it's silly but I told him it's my sanity and something I can control.

Then he got all frustrated that I wasn't cooking dinner tonight. REALLY? I cooked last night and am cooking for father's day and don't get me started on all I did today to help you and you don't feel like cooking? I swear tomorrow morning the SDs are planning on making DH breakfast and if I'm excluded I'm just going to leave to the bakery on my own.