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onmywayout's picture

Finally after too many years (four+) of agonizing over what I was doing "wrong" I have booted DH out of the house (six months ago) and filed and successfully divorced him with my prenupt intact. He put his obsession over his children over me and had me, the sucker, paying for all of his expenses while he siphoned everything he earned toward his kids' college tuition and support and gas money -- anything so he looked like a hero. I finally got a great counselor and have moved beyond the what-am-I-doing-wrong phase to what a colossal asshole this man is and how dare he ask me to marry him so I could pay for him and vicariously for his kids. He has borrowed a great deal of money that he hasn't paid back and taken advantage of me for four years and finally I am free of him and his lousy guilt trip about how he "needs" a place to see his kids so he can parent. His kids are 22, 20 and 19. LOL. Maybe pay for yourself and don't sponge off of me might be a start.

Do I sound bitter? Yes...but I also am so incredibly happy to be free of all the bullshit and baggage and fake guilt trips! His kids are his responsibility. Why ask someone to marry you when you can't even support yourself, let alone your Teflon brats? Yeah! It will take me a little while longer to unravel all my resentment and anger, but I did it! I really did it! And he did nothing but try to make me feel guilty because I wanted to -- gasp! -- spend time alone with the man I had just recently married. I must have been defective because I didn't want to spend every stinking weekend and every free moment around his "children" -- who were all over 18!

Joke is the asshole is now living in his friend's office (homeless!) and drives around a broken down shit box car that he can't afford to fix. Yet he was such an asshole that he couldn't treat me with the respect that I deserved so now he is entitled to nothing. At least no one can use me any more.

twoviewpoints's picture

It's over now and no more being used. So he's homeless and broke...he should have valued and appreciate what he had. His loss.

Now on with your new start in life. Yay. Time to be good to yourself and enjoy life.

Rags's picture

Congratulations on starting your new life adventure with that shallow and polluted gene pool fading in your rear view mirror.

Congratulations!

IslandGal's picture

Damn! You go girl!! Im bloody impressed and so happy for you! Your future lies sparkling bright ahead..spread those wings and FLLYYYYY!!

SMforever's picture

Well done for being decisive and strong-- and for being able to admit the situation was not good for YOU.

I am constantly amazed by how so many good people get duped into marrying people who only want either a nurse or a purse. It does make sense to have an airtight prenup in any second marriage. Anyone who objects to that needs to explain why they want to get their hands on your money!!

Best wishes in your freedom.

SebringLad's picture

My a male's perspective,good for you !!!
We know too many people in that same boat but they haven't dumped the leach !!
Good luck to you !!

onmywayout's picture

SMforever -- lol a nurse or a purse. I think I was a combination of both! And yes, SebringLad -- such a good feeling and I am so glad I made that decision to take care of myself and stop the parasitic relationship!

ChiefGrownup's picture

You sound fantastic! You were genuine and generous and did not get that in return. So you did the sane thing and saved yourself as well you should!

Well done!