I need advice here. Well probably not advice but more of a verification I responded the correct way. Little background.... My husband and I have been married for 4 yrs. He has 2 grown daughters 33 and 30 (one has two children) I have two children. My son is 24 my daughter is 26. My kids think my husband hung the moon. they have a wonderful relationship. My step daughters however hate me and have from day one. I know how hard it is to accept a new person into their fathers life as I have a step mom myself. But if I had ever treated my step mom the way my step daughters have treated me I probably would not have lived to tell it. Here is what happened.... the 30 yr old stepdaughter and I have been on what you would call a basic respect status for last couple of years. I told her and her sister to their face I do not expect you to like me I know we will never be best buds abd go shopping or anything BUT what is important to me is that your father have a relationship with you and the grandkids. I do not have to be a part of any of that however it would make things easier if we could at least be civil to one another. I told them it is your call. So for last couple years it has been civil. I keep the his grandchild;dren ALOT because my schedule is very flexible. as a matter of fact I kept one for three weeks straight every weekday due to he couldn't go to school. In this 3 weeks we received a call for two foster children which we accepted. NOw having foster kids is tricky..... you have to keep things very private. anyway I now have two foster kiddos and a grandchild every day. NO big deal. My stepdaughter calls one day and wants to take the kiddos to the movies here in town. She didn't ask me she asked her dad (which who had the foster kiddos at the time). I was at work. he said yes.... which is fine except she took her mother and her mothers friend with her (husband ex wife and my husband hates her and she hates him) my step daughter tells her mother who the kids are their names and they are asking the kids all kinds of questions and start looking on social media sites for the parents (at this point I didn't even know the parents name) so on and so forth. All it would take is one phone call for the caseworker to come and get this kids because the privacy issue was broken (her telling her mom and friend and pumping these kids) (I know this because my daughter works at the movies and witnessed every bit of it) I was livid but said nothing because she dropped the kids off at my work. She knew I couldn't make a scene. When my husband found out he blew a gasket.... On his daughter. Now the whole situation has turned into a fiasco because she blames me for telling him. His ex wife would in fact make the call just to hurt him. Now she has snuck into the foster kids classroom at school to see him (she is a social worker btw so she knows all the rules) because he told me when I picked him up from school that she came to see him ...... I am at a loss I f I say something to her it is going to get real ugly again. She already told my husband that he would never see his grandkids again (2nd time she has done this) all because he confronted her.