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mr frustated's picture

I have been taking care of my stepson since he was 1 1/2 years old now he is 12 years of age, I have a 8 year old daughter with his mom. When my daughter was born, she truly was a blessing cause I wasn't supposed to have kids due to an appendicitis when I was eight years old. Every time I scold him or ground him for being bad she starts fighting with me, it's been like this for the last ten years. On my daughters 2nd birthday she had their birthdays together his is on February and my daughters is on September so their not close at all, then when his real birthday rolled around she had him another one, she did this for five years. Now it's come to where he don't even care to listen to me, I work around 10 to 12 hrs a day as an electrician so when I get home I'm tired, she don't cook clean or take no interest in my daughter it's always about her or her son, I never treated him any different than my daughter you would think that my daughter was her step kid but it's hers to. I'm done trying she hasn't had to work since she moved in with me 11 years ago so I guess what I'm asking should I feel bad if I decide to leave her?

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twoviewpoints's picture

You may want to edit your profile, as you have your SS's name in it. Privacy reasons and such.

" I can leave take my daughter and be less stressed. then he says I'm with her cause of my daughter I'll take my daughter cause she don't have any means on taking care of her"

Before you decide anything, you'll need to talk to your lawyer. The idea of just taking your daughter, regardless of Mom's financial ability may not be as simple as you think. Also, if you stay, your daughter's idea of her going to live with her grandmother (your mother) is not a solution and can open up all kinds of new issues, not to mention Mom has to agree to such a move.

No one here can make a divorce decision for you. It is something that needs to be carefully weighed by you, yourself. Have you tried marriage counseling yet? You mention the SS has down syndrome, is your wife involved in a support group. I couldn't help but notice you were comparing the children different abilities in your profile and that your wife favors her son over her daughter. All areas to perhaps explore with a professional.

Luckyone's picture

Um. I would never have allowed my h to move out with my child, no matter what he told me the reasons were. It would have been a huge red flag and I would have shut everything down, probably not even letting him take by child to the grocery.

It would have felt like he was poised to steal my child.

Luckyone's picture

Lol! Well, there is that. I apologize, I may have skimmed some parts because of grammar, etc.