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Today is the day!

Aes22487's picture

Today is the day! After DH and I having yet another blowup argument with the compulsive liar and manipulator SD15, DH finally decided it was time for her to go! Finally the BM gets to deal with the monster she created. I could literally jump with joy! Our home will be much more tolerable and not so stressful! My bd7 and ss13 are both beyond happy about her move too. BM picks sd15 up this afternoon.

bearcub25's picture

Hey it happened to me in 2 hours.

I gave the ultimatum of SS going to live with his Mother or DSO take all 3 and get the hell out.
SS was at his Mothers....both stated that was what they wanted....in 2 hours he was gone.

Why is it terrible for the BM to take care of her own children?

Thumper's picture

Dancing in the....Years ago this was very true Dancing. It was NOT uncommon for families to do this. Off Grandparents, OR to the Family Farm with Uncle Peter to work and show them respect and responsibility.

I do not have an opinion of what OP husband decided. My comment is about what worked 30, 40 plus years ago.

Cover1W's picture

One of my co-workers has a destructive ex-H, with mental health issues and a wealthy family.
His daughter from a former marriage, my co-worker's step-daughter, lives with my co-worker (she gained full custody of her SD during a brutally nasty divorce).
The ex-H and his family are full on PASing her SD, who is now 13.
It's been awful for her and her son (son of crazy ex-H) and her current husband.
She's a great person, and a firm parent. Her son is doing well, even with visitation with her crazy ex-H. Her SD (she's been around her SD since her SD was very young) has become increasingly angry, aggressive, anti-social and refuses to participate with the family as a whole, unless it's her ex-H's family. She refuses to talk to the counselor and my co-worker is seeing signs of the same mental illness her ex has (can manifest in teen years).

Since her crazy ex-H had another episode, which effected everyone - literally associated with both sides of the family, her SD has become worse. She's now at the end of her rope...it's difficult to explain how bad it is over the internet and how exhausted she is. The ex-H parents have offered to take in the SD (i.e. snowflake doesn't do anything wrong ever) and she is looking into taking them up on their offer.

After hearing the horror stories, I don't blame her one bit. She's gone over and above with this kid, as has her husband, but if there's a family member who WANTS her then she's willing to let it go. Very sad, but very real.

Katie Step Mom 2017's picture

Congratulations !!!! Don't let any of these angry trolls comments take away your joy. She's 15.. close enough to an adult where she knows better. You're lucky you're husband put his foot down and said enough is enough. I can only dream mine comes to this realization.

Acratopotes's picture

and when things gets sour at BM's... after about 3-6 months... SD is still not allowed back.

this is what these kids do, master manipulators.... they want to move between houses every 3-6 months cause then there's never any consequences for the stuff they did...

CLove's picture

LOL. I had a similar situation - SD17 - then 16, wouldn't clean her pigsty of a room, so SO threatened to bag up everything that was on the floor. She shouted, screamed, etc. SO told her if she didn't let him bag her stuff, she could go live with her mother. She said "fine", bagged her stuff and BM picked her up. A week later, SO gets a text from boomerang child and has to pick her up because BM is "being an idiot", according to daughter dearest. She moves in...

She moved out again, back to BM's, and then again back to our house, because the boyfriend was "following her, and that was creepy", no matter that he was just worried about her walking alone. NOW, none of us really care if she walks around in the middle of the night, no one is picking her up. And she is back to dual custody schedule.
Biggrin

Yea, see how long YOUR boomerang SD15 will last!