carlazep's picture

Possibly petty but I don’t care

My husband ended up paying his parents for the cruise tickets they bought ss and his girlfriend. I don’t care anymore. I’ve just been keep my head down and applying for more jobs. The pizza delivery is only on weekends and it doesn’t pay too much.

If some of you recall, ss came over to our house uninvited and made a comment about how there were no photos of him. Well, last week I noticed that my husband had placed two frames of ss with the other photos on display.

I immediately took all the photos in the living area and dumped them in my closet in a bag. Now, no one can say anything.

It may be petty but I would rather have no photos then to see that face every day.

sanecatlady's picture

Oh he was the one who made

Oh he was the one who made the terrible accusations....

Again, I am sorry you are still having to do this. Keep focusing on work and your exit plan, if that is what you are wanting to do.

Why did your DH feel the need to pay them for the tickets?

carlazep's picture

I am not looking to leave my

I am not looking to leave my husband. But I want to work so I have my own money and I am kept busy mentally. My husband makes enough to support us but losing my business and basically becoming bankrupt really affected me badly.

My husband ended up paying for the trip just so his brother would leave him alone. His brother is just worried about his inheritance.

Thank you.

sanecatlady's picture

What the parents do is none

What the parents do is none of the brother's business... ugh.

And after everything that kid has done, I would be a bit miffed that he is getting rewarded a cruise.

carlazep's picture

I know. But what can I do?

I know. But what can I do? Everyone believes him. So is my husband just to be on the safe side. Every time I think of the injustice I get so angry and sad. I am trying to ignore his existence to save my own mental health.

It's very stressful to even see the money being given to ss when I pay the bills online.

sanecatlady's picture

That would just infuriate me.

That would just infuriate me.

Like I said, just keep your mind on other things. That's all you can do.

Exjuliemccoy's picture

You married into a really

You married into a really unhealthy dynamic, Carla. And you're right - what can you do? You can't change it. So, better to just focus on yourself and investing in what will make you happy. Leave them to it.

BUT - I would insist that SS not be allowed in your home. You deserve a safe place.

Rags's picture

Well, that is one way to deal

Well, that is one way to deal with the picture issue. Get rid of them all.

A parent is an example, mentor, confidante, advocate and disciplinarian, not a buddy.-Rags
If you can't listen and learn then you will have to feel.-WLR
If you want to be a part of my life then use your head or STFU and do what you are told.-Rags

jam's picture

Not petty at all. It is YOUR

Not petty at all. It is YOUR house and you can decorate it.

If SS can play the wounded child card and manipulate his dad into setting pictures of him in YOUR house then I would think it okay to remove ss's pictures and let him know that you do not decorate his house (which I am sure he does not have pictures of you and dh set out)and he will not be decorating yours.

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