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I hate him, his kids and most of all his hideous ex witch

xomaxoai's picture

I never thought I would hate my own h, but I despise him for all that he has allowed to happen. Bm can accuse me of so many things even go as far as calling the cops on me and yet he still protects her and treats her like a friend. I don't get it! I thought a husband was suppose to love and protect their wife not allow their ex to call and talk crap about her for up to an hour and then turn around and accuse her of doing those things ex says. And to think he keeps telling me I have to trust him in order for our marriage to make it. How do you trust someone that has gone out of his way to hide daily contact with evil bm. I sure as hell don't know how to trust him, but I've learned to be a pretty good detective for all the good it does me. I don't feel like I will ever be as good as her in his eyes. I hate it more and more all the time.

notsurehowtodeal's picture

And you stay with him why?

You have been having this problem for more than a year and at one time took steps to leave him. It sounds like the problem is getting worse since he is now listening to BM talk about you and apparently was ok with her calling the cops on you.

It is unacceptable for him to talk to her daily and keep it a secret from you. It is completely wrong for him to listen to her trash talk you.

Did you ever start seeing a different counselor for yourself?

CANYOUHELP's picture

You deserve better than this....though I know my husband has stated things in the past to my SDs about me he should not have (and, though he says he learned his lesson- I doubt I will fully trust him again, sad to say); if he were talking about me to BM it would be total betrayal, and honestly if I EVER find out he is saying anything negative in the future about me to these SD's again, regarding our marriage, it is over and he will be getting out; he knows that too. I do not expect a lot from him, but loyalty is a nonnegotiable in a marriage, and anything less is not worth being married to him. I put up with enough of his BS given his poor choices before my time. Once this happens, it is hard to ever trust again, even if you actually can...

Something is up with that given what ExW is all into your personal life details.... She knows the details of your marriage, oh...h..ll no! And, these daily texts with her would be of serious concern to me, as well. I might even put a detective on this guy for a while, these are signs of more than the eye can see, my thinking. Take pictures of his texts with her and begin preparing your case for an attorney now, because it he is communicating constantly with his ex, you are facing a very serious marital problem in the future. Protect yourself now and prepare yourself to end this mess. You are wise to be a detective now.

Rags's picture

And.... why are you still married to this pathetic waste of husband skin?

Time to lock up all of the assets, rekey the locks, and purge this idiot and his shallow and polluted gene pool from your life. Let him go back to his X.

It sounds that they deserve each other.

Enjoy the beginning of a new life adventure.

Take care of you.

ChiefGrownup's picture

The person who is constantly insisting you trust him is exactly the person you can never trust.

Really, it's a rule. It's in the Surviving Humanity Manual.

Stop arguing with him. Over anything. Get your ducks in a row. Then tell him, "You're right. I do have to trust my husband. And I don't. So seeya. Works out great cuz you don't trust me, either."

And, then, sadly I do recommend you go get an STD panel. Mr. Trust Me has lots of secrets, I'm betting.

Very sorry.

Acratopotes's picture

The day SO puts BM ahead of me will be the day I walk out of this relationship.... cause why is he dating you then and not his Ex wife?

I'm sorry but I think you have to sit down and re think your life, I will not put up with this, once trust is gone it's the end of any relationship