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I am going to strangle my DH......

DaizyDuke's picture

Was just talking to DH on the phone. The same man who earlier this week said he really has no interest in seeing SD while she is home for her GBM funeral stuff because of her shitty behavior. So while we're talking he says:

"SD text me earlier and asked if I wanted to get together tonight. I told her I really didn't feel up to going anywhere, but that you and BS6 were going to the Village Christmas in neighbor town and that she could come and go with you guys and then spend the night if she wanted"

What the actual fuck. Why would he think I am OK with this?????? Mind you HE is not even planning on going to this event!!!!
He said he didn't get a response from her, so HOPEFULLY she has no interest.... ugh my night will be ruined and I will be pissed!

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DaizyDuke's picture

If he had no interest in seeing her while she was home, why would he think you were interested??

Right???? She knows I don't particularly care for her, so I doubt she will take him up on that offer.. but HE also knows that I don't care for her and he offers up my entertaining services without even asking me first????????

mommadukes2015's picture

Perhaps that's why he did it? He knew she wouldn't take and he wouldn't be the butt and neither would you because it seems as though you'd extended the olive branch.

Either he's a twerp or a genius.

DaizyDuke's picture

For the life of me I can not figure out what would have possessed him to concoct this idiotic "plan" in his head!!! I'm sure her "plan" was to get together with DH so she could collect her Christmas money while she's here as I don't think she'll be back for Christmas... and I told DH that. whatever.

And again, I don't know how he goes from Monday making this statement: "SD is coming home on Saturday and said maybe she and I can get together. I really have zero interest in seeing her, I'll just make up some excuse" to Oh hey!! Come on over and ruin Daizy's night! UGH! :?

zerostepdrama's picture

Ugh... how nice of him to volunteer your time and event to her... What a douche.

Tuff Noogies's picture

sounds like he had a massive brain fart. what was your actual response to him? maniacal laughter? hanging up on him? pray, do tell!!!

DaizyDuke's picture

Nothing! We had been laughing and having a grand old conversation until he said that... then I didn't know what to say.. I just sat in silence.. he was like "Are you still there?"

This was NOT on my Random Acts of Christmas Kindness calendar!!!!!!

CANYOUHELP's picture

Oh wow, this is almost beyond words....As if this isn't appauling enough on it's own, what other plans might he decide he will make for you in the future?

We would be having a come to Jesus, Budda, or whatever type of serious attention-gaining meeting, I could think of...to clearly define MY own expectations of what I intend to do and not do.

He has really crossed a boundary here.

DaizyDuke's picture

oh I already decided this. If she shows up, then he is going too. I'll volunteer him just like he volunteered me. dickslap

Pecanflower's picture

Oh HELL no! HELL TO THA NO NO NO.

Two things would be happening right quick.
#1. Hubby would get a "Come to Jesus meeting." You are not his surrogate. If he doesn't want to spend time with her; don't volunteer YOU to do it, without your permission.

#2. If she is expecting to meet up with you there....and HE IS NOT GOING AS WELL...You suddenly develop face blindness and never saw the woman. It's a big village after all and your paths never crossed. And again, It is NOT your responsibility to be your DH's surrogate.

#3. If she is coming to stay at your house without him consulting you; He owes you an apology. BIG TIME. And he needs to grow a spine.

zerostepdrama's picture

He's so clueless and hopeful he figured you would love to spend time with her. Oh he just didn't have the balls to say he didn't want to see her and instead of being the "bad guy" he put it on you.

DaizyDuke's picture

I really think this is why he said it..... he knows the living situation at BMs... she lives in a 2 bedroom apartment with her 4 children under the ages of 11 and at least 4 other adults. He's probably picturing SD sleeping on the floor or who knows where and that was his way of enticing her to come to our house and spend the night.... thus getting him out of having to wine and dine her... but also saving the day.

I'm sure he had good intentions.. he just doesn't use his brain quite frequently.

zerostepdrama's picture

That is how DH is. Doesn't like the situation of the skids, but doesn't want to put a lot of effort into changing it. Wants what is best for them but as long as he can take the path of least resistance to get there.

DaizyDuke's picture

EXACTLY THIS^^^^^^^ This is DH. Easier to throw money at them and feel like he's doing "his part" than it is to take an active role.

Thumper's picture

The EGG NOG is really yummy this time of year. Hit the State Store

Hey maybe, just maaaayyyy beeeee, dh wants to hear the scoop on Grannys death???