Congrats To All Stepparents
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Although my wife and I are not a step family our son is in one and it is so darn tough and sad to see from the outside looking in !!
Our son is raising his 2 sons part-time the best he can and my wife and I support them economically every month $500-$1000 just to keep a roof over their heads!
What is my point here ???
I just want to say "my hat is off to you all" as we can barely cope with the turmoil of our son's life( and he is our only child) let alone any more children...let alone step kids!!!!
How do you all do it ?????
How do we cope, easy we do
How do we cope, easy we do not support adult children, your son is an adult and he should be working for himself, not for his skids.
Fine it stays the same... the
Fine it stays the same... the son was adult enough to get married and get his wife pregnant, he should be adult enough to financially support his children and himself and not sponge off his parents.
Thanks for recognizing that
Thanks for recognizing that Sparenting is worth appreciating. Sparenting is significantly different in each blended family sitution but I find that the best practices for how to navigate the blended family adventure successfully are common.
-Make your partner your priority.
-Hold eveyone in the picture to reasonable standards of behavior.
-Follow the CO to letter or use the legal processes to change it.
-Zero tolerance for deviation from the CO or reasonable standards of behavior.
-Lather, rinse, repeat.
Others have commented on the support you provide for your adult son. You many want to take a look at that and determine if you are actually helping or are you facilitating poor decisions on his part. He is an adult, he has children, he needs to raise and support them.
You have raised yours already.
It is time for you and your bride to focus on yourselves and let your DS figure out how to navigate his own adulthood.
IMHO of course.
Good luck.