BM claiming SS was sexually molested
Last year in school, a girl in SS' class grabbed his crotch while they were playing. SS told his teacher that the little girl touched his "bad spot" and the girl was reprimanded for it. The principal obviously called DH to let him know about it and said that they would talk to the girl's parents. She also said that these things happen because children at that age are curious about the opposite sex and that it's not that big of a deal. I guess SS randomly mentioned it to BM one day and now she's telling anyone and everyone that SS was sexually molested by an older girl at his school. She's also claiming that SS is now 'sexually touching' his sisters because he was 'molested' at school. DH and I are 100% sure she is lying about SS touching his sisters for several different reasons. For starters, SS knows that no one is allowed to touch his 'bad spot,' as he calls it, unless it is his parents, grandma, or the doctor, trying to give him a bath or checking to make sure it's ok. DH had that talk with him very early on because we found out that BM was dating a registered sex offender several years back. SS was the one that told his teacher about the girl grabbing him because again, he knows its wrong. He even closes his eyes if girls on TV show up who aren't fully clothed. And second, SS hardly sees his sisters let alone play with them. SS does not have a normal sibling relationship with BM's other kids because she typically never has them all at the same time and because he is not with her very often. If SS is at BM's house he is either outside playing with the other kids from the neighborhood, at his friend's house, or at his grandma's (BM's mother not DH). BM has been threatening to take us to court so i'm assuming this is one of her tactics to try and get custody. Any thoughts? Sorry for the tangent, but i'm just so furious and disgusted that a mother would lie about something this serious for her own benefit.
bad spot? Kid is in for some
bad spot? Kid is in for some serious therapy thinking of his privates as a bad spot lol Yep, some bad bm's will stop at nothing to get what they want.
"Bad spot"? What he calls it
"Bad spot"? What he calls it bothers me far more than a little girl at school grabbing it. The "You can touch mine if I can touch yours" kid game is as old as time. It is normal as long as it is an innocent developmental step between peers (kids of similar age). Molestation is something entirely different.
I think that the syndrome of the month pseudo science crowd has demonized many things that are just part of growing up and use their complete BS to publish rather than perish and so that they can medicate normal behavior in order to give crappy parents an excuse for their abject parental failures.
When you throw a toxic parent and a blended family situation in the mix you have a recipe to severely F-up a kid big time. BM's bullshit will be the straw that screws this kid up for life if she is not confronted aggressively about her crap.
Get this kid some help.
IMHO of course.
Good luck.
bad SPOT is a curious name to
bad SPOT is a curious name to call a childs private part/area.
1st, I would call the school directly talk to the principle and ask their policy for the circumstances you wrote about...I would be shocked if they blow it off as normal curiosity. Maybe the response you heard would have been normal reaction 5 even 10 years or more ago but in 2016, NOT SO MUCH.
Since bm is saying ss was sexually abuse/assaulted a Pediatric Forensics physician would be the go to person. Most every city has at least 1 who is skilled and highly trained to evaluate children of all ages. To rule out or confirm sexual assult/or abuse in a child.
MOM will have to attend and dh and others who can tell 'their story' to the Doctor and believe me when I say they will figure it out. There is no way you or your family should have to hold your breath wondering what actually did happen. "LETS GET TO THE BOTTOM of this bm"
Please take this new development very seriously (not that you haven't) because IF bm wants to blow the roof off a court room about your family inside your home --this will do it.
Protection of a child always comes first, it is unfortunate that false accusations happen often during high conflict situations that can last well beyond age of emancipation.
SORRY about this. But I would get to the bottom of it, FAST.