Skid runs back to BM whining. Sound familiar?
Just a bit of a rant really, I hope you all don't mind. SD13 loves and I repeat LOVES nothing more than leaving mine and DH's house and running home crying to BM/mummykins. This could be about anything but usually what SD13 just doesn't want to do ie go swimming/come to ours every other weekend/what we feed her.
Next thing you know good old BM/mummykins is on the phone/text to DH bitching about 'how upset' SD13 is and playing the burning martyr yet again. Last weekend though, I had had enough of the stress. DH and I collared SD13 about this when she came over to our house next and in front of her brother SD13 flat-out lied that she was doing this. SS15 sold SD13 down the river and confirmed that in fact yes she did run home moaning to BM.
In no uncertain terms, we told SD13 that running home to BM was causing us a whole host of problems and had to stop. She is almost 14 for God's sake! She brought a nightlight over to our house for bed time like a f**king 5 yr old which has ahem **coughs** now gone missing. Maybe I'm a bitch but I am tired and over a nearly 14 year old giant teenager pretending to be a 5 year old babygirl.
F**kin steplife.
What is it about step
What is it about step daughters ? Whiny manipulate and bitchy no matter the age it seems
You say you like step son- can you do activities with him and leave her to pout in corner - bowling swim ski cinema - basically exclude her and say you don't like to do stuff with us and it makes you cry when we include you
We don't want to upset you so we will leave you alone now
Or you could let BM know that you confronted sd and she denied it so you believe sd is lying to both sides for attention
If BM is reasonable you could but I presume she is not based on messages you get ?
It's tough and awful that you go through this- do what you need to do to keep yourself happy. Also be wary- is she complaining to other ppl outside home like teachers or that ?
This was SS13 up until a year
This was SS13 up until a year ago. He would complain to BM about all sorts of things, including that we are mean to him and we ground him every weekend. Far from the truth - he would be hanging with friends and have them spend the night ALLLL weekend. Even went so far to tell BM to call DH when SS13 tells her these stories. Nope - she never called.
After receiving emails from BM for over 3 years, I had enough. I had a talk with SS13 - NO MORE LYING, QUIT THE BS and TELL BM that you lied! I raised my voice. I yelled. I couldn't take it any longer.
So SS13 tells BM the next day. She's upset, of course, and grounds him for lying.
Have had 1 issue since then.
Your DH needs to get a backbone and tell BM it's a lie. Call SD out on it!