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BM trying to convince SD14 that discipline is abuse

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Submitted by RayRay on Wed, 02/03/2016 - 2:39pm

I recently found messages on SD14 phone where BM (who only is allowed supervised visits) is telling SD that they will go to DHR and report the DH has abused her so she can live there and see her boyfriend. He took her phone away and made (sat her on bed by guiding her by the wrist and no there aren't any marks and he didn't hurt her in anyway) sit in the room and listen to him while he lectured her about said boyfriend (she isn't old enough to date and we don't let her yet). This is abuse according to BM. Funny we call it discipline. Anyway, the only reason BM could even communicate with SD was through a phone she gave to her that is not connected to a network but she uses the WIFI I pay for to talk trash about DH on Facebook. What should I do with secret phone? We have already contacted our lawyer in regards to her trying to falsely accuse DH of child abuse.

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Submitted by kathc on Wed, 02/03/2016 - 3:40pm

^^^^another vote for this^^^

Why is she allowed to access the Wifi on the phone? Nope, change the password and don't give it to her.

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Submitted by RayRay on Wed, 02/03/2016 - 4:12pm

I didn't even know she had the phone til I checked the confiscated phone and saw she had been messaging on secret phone.

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Submitted by RayRay on Wed, 02/03/2016 - 4:14pm

I will also let DH know that supervised visits are all she gets no communication outside of that court appointed time. We were trying to be generous it was our mistake to let SD friend her on FB. Thanks for the reminder on that!

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Submitted by Exjuliemccoy on Wed, 02/03/2016 - 5:31pm

Take screen shots of those texts and document everything. That's some damming stuff. I don't know if it qualifies as parental interference but you should run it by your attorney to see if it's actionable.

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Submitted by RayRay on Thu, 02/04/2016 - 10:11am

I have told DH I will not be alone with SD14. I love her very much and want the best for her but I can't jeopardize my future and my career because she is so easily influenced by BM. As of yesterday the only way she will have access to electronic devices is at school. Wish I could stop it there as well. BM has only one thing in mind. Get custody of SD14 and try to get money out of DH. She plans to accomplish this by telling SD14 she can have boyfriend over and go on dates she thinks SD will lie for her (she could care less about SS7) That will not happen but BM is delusional. This is becoming a nightmare tho!