Text from SD- SMH
So after the last month of DH letting SD know she is welcome in our home as long as she understands she will be held accountable for her actions, DH sent a text to her on Sunday saying "We are going to your aunts house for Father's Day if you would like to come"
She then responded with "I will no longer be over while you are intoxicated. when you drink you turn into a bad person and I do not feel comfortable being around it any longer. Your ways of drinking have caused me and my family a lto of pain. I do not respect your choices of drinking and will not be coming ovwer until you can commit to being fully sober while I am in your household"
So let me set the record straight- I rarely drink, unecessary calories but DH drinks PBR's and RARELY too many. On maybe 2 occassions I have seen him drink too much, normally it's when he is working outside all day, drinking 4% beers and doesn't eat. But I am not going to tell another adult not to drink at all.
So SD keeps looking for reasons not to be in our home, BM is a Disney Mom with no rules or consequences for bad behavior. SD has yet to apologize to her father or admit her part in the last day she was in our home when we had to call the cops on her. of course she wants to be in moms house.
Secondly a conversation I had with SD a few months ago she was telling me that her mom was now sober (never had a drinking problem but is with a recovering alcoholic) because her boyfriend doesn't drink, well based on social media I know this to not be true so I was like "Really because she drinks while she is out" and her response was "well we don't have alcohol in the house and maybe she has one glass of wine (honey one glass of wine equals 3 of your dad's beers, the ones you hate him for drinking)
I think this comes from her mom, I think the email sounded too scripted to be coming from a 13 year old. I believe PAS is at play here, which is amazing that she speaks so badly about DH but then wants him to BEG their daughter to come over.
Last night he simply responded with "I will tell your aunt not to expect you on Sunday" and didn't address the message from her. I think it's a trap and was planned by BM and her together. I think anything they can get in writting that is discoverable is always a trap, BM is VERY good at writing shaddy bitch emails and I always assist him in responding.
Not sure how to assist him in responding: I thought for him to just say "Sorry you feel this way" but he is thinking he would send something to BM and SD so they both are on the same page. I think keeping BM out of this and dealing with his daughter himself. I also was being petty last night and joked that he should reply "Well you are welcome in this house if you can pass a drug test" Funny the fucked up kid who falunts getting high on social media is telling daddy how to live his life.