Yay! I get to vent!! Ok my fiancé and I have been together for 2 yrs getting married in 8 months. To begin his ex wife tried extremely hard to break us up and I cant stand the b@+#h. She is always emailing, and calling I mean almost on a daily basis about things that do involve their kid but are not urgent and could all be put in one email at the end of each week. My hubby to be great guy but continues to pay that pos respect when she almost ruined our relationship and we fight about that regularly cause I do not think she deserves ANY respect or consideration after the stunts she has pulled. As for SD, 14 yrs old, she is a liar, has a different bf just about every week and now seeing an 18 year old whom has been arrested for criminal sexual penetration of a minor ya a 13 year old girl, has or had a drug problem and is on probation. Neither Dad or BM think this is ok but neither of them put a real stop to it either dad has finally told her that if she has any further communication with this petifile that she will lose her phone. But it seems like when she is at BM it is ok and she can talk to this 18 year old and even goes for walks down to his house. She has been caught smoking, drinking, smoking weed, performing oral sex, sneaking out of friends house and picked up by cops cause she was with a 20 year old guy that was drunk, high, and had a loaded gun in the car all while at BM's house. The thing is I think both BM and dad are afraid to throw down some real rules on this brat because when she doesn't get her way at one house she wants to go to the others house, so instead they tell her they don't approve but she just says "I know" and keeps on doing it. She is a pain in my ass but I do worry about this kid. I also worry very much cause I have 2 daughters which somewhat look up to her cause she is older and I do not want them following her lousy lead. I have a hard time with disapline in this home cause my kids don't get away with what she does and its not fair that I yell at my kids for something that she did too but don't feel that I can yell at her too. I do take issues to her dad but feel like I am seen to be pointing out all her flaws and he is so much more easy going about it. He is very good to my kids and I think they get spoiled by him too but if there are going to be rules to protect ALL of our kids they need to be for ALL of the kids. My SD can be so hateful with my 5 year old and I do not tolerate it so I get on her case and she goes back to her moms for her visitation and then refuses to come back cause she can't stand my daughter and doesn't wanna be over the same time she is. the thing is both BM and dad cater to her wants when I think that there is a schedule for a reason and we need to stick to it and learn how to live together not run away and have it your way when you don't like something. Sigh.... Any ideas after reading this novel. There are more issues but I will add to it on another post. Thanks