Daddy Dearest Day - What's your experience?
Sigh ... here it is, the eve of yet another Father's Day.
I have already noticed my SO's change in demeanor in the last few days - what with all the heart-felt advertising, feature stories on TV, etc. regarding how much we all love dear old dad. In my SO's case, it's always a big unknown as to what (if anything) SD28 will do to recognize him.
In the meantime, I get to live with a somewhat crabby and assy-acting man because I know in the back of his mind he is wondering (and wishing) that his princess will recognize him. I expect she will at least send him a text, and maybe a phone call where (according to him) she usually yawns throughout and getting her to have an actual conversation is like pulling teeth. He says most of her input in single syllable answers (yes, no, OK) to him trying to get her to converse like an adult.
I think it's a bit more emotional for him this year since he is going to be a grandfather as SD is pregnant with first child. I am sure in the back of his mind he is wondering what kind of role he will have in this grandkid's life.
I am all for disengaging when it comes to SD and I don't even try to bring her up unless absolutely necessary. But when her action/inaction is cause for his bad behavior towards me, I have to try doubly-hard not to scream: IT'S NOT MY DAMN FAULT THAT YOU RAISED A SELF-ABSORBED A-HOLE SO DON'T TAKE IT OUT BY NITPICKING ON ME!!!
Just wondering if any of you experience the same thing - are you the emotional whipping post for these men who take it out on you in subtle or not so subtle ways, when it's actually their own ADULT children who are disappointing them?
If so, do tell... at least we are not alone in experiencing this!