Skid not doing as told
I would love to hear opinions on what is the best way to handle when a skid decides they aren't going to do what step parent told them to do. I don't mean the overall out of control brats. I mean kids that are generally well behaved and do as told by bioparent. The ones testing boundaries.
I am a very direct and aggressive person and never allowed my kids to brush me off when I gave them a task. That method would not be appropriate with her as it would send the crybaby princess into a tear fit and eternal resentment. So I bit my tongue and let it go this time. Afterward I discussed with DH and we couldn't decide the most productive way to handle these situations without being harsh. But he will step in to back me up when this happens in the future, and is definitely committed to consistent and structured parenting which she doesn't get at bio mom's house.