prenuptial agreement a romance killer in step parenting situation / What are your feelings and experiences?
Although marriage is a financial partnership as well as a romantic one, I feel that discussing something as mundane as property and finances, as well as the possibility of divorce, will mar an otherwise beautiful time of my life.
I can't help but feel that such a request (prenup) has an undertone of "I have doubts about your true agenda as well as our ability to make this work over the long haul." Let's face it, it is not romantic.
DH never had an prenup with the first wife, as a result, he lost exactly 50% of his assets. I would classify DH as a comfortable middle class. Our family backgrounds are pretty much the same. I understand where he is coming from, but I cannot help feeling sorry for myself because obviously, first wife never had a prenup. I feel he trusted HER more than he trusted me. This alone hurts.
He has reassured me several times that I am the woman he truely loved. But due to his failed first marriage and his single father status, he has a responsibility of protecting his child from first marriage.
I can understand where he is coming from, but I can't help feeling I am a second best. I feel I have to pay for other woman's mistake. If I were the first wife, I would have entered the marriage without a prenup. It is not the issue about money, it is the issue about trust, commitment, ego, and feeling.
Am I justified to feel this way? Have any of you shared the similar experiences? How do I deal with this emotions? Thank you all in advance.