I am a stepmom of 3 boys age 14,11 and 9 over last 4 years and I go through lot of guilt feelings as a step mom ,like not loving them the same way my husband does or not missing them, I feel left out when we are together as a family as all of them want to be beside their dad and I feel jealous too, I do all my duties towards them however it hurts when you get nothing in return. I feel like a servant in the house, I don’t know how to overcome myself.
Stop being a servant- they are not your children . Maybe you could get a job and find some hobbies outside the home which mean your DH has to do more- you haven't given us too much to go on here but these boys are old enough to be doing some stuff for themselves.
Welcome to the site- you will find good advice here.
I never get the jelous thing. Ive never been jelous of the skids or BM in all the decades Ive known them. I dont get it. why on earth would would I ever be jelous? my life is so much better then theirs and I have so much more going for me...I alway think these jelous things are fake from people who wish that people were jelous who don't have as good as a life as them.
Welcome to the site! Maybe you could tell us a bit more about your life and your step situation so we can discuss it more with you. But if you're feeling like a servant - that's a good indication you're being taken advantage of. May be time to step back and take stock.
Why would you beat yourself up because you don't feel for someone the way someone else feels for them?
Welcomd by the way. I hope that you find this to be a good place to vent, contribute and to pick up some useful advice from others who are living the blended family dream.
Hi everyone am new on board
Hi everyone am new on board
I am a stepmom of 3 boys age
I am a stepmom of 3 boys age 14,11 and 9 over last 4 years and I go through lot of guilt feelings as a step mom ,like not loving them the same way my husband does or not missing them, I feel left out when we are together as a family as all of them want to be beside their dad and I feel jealous too, I do all my duties towards them however it hurts when you get nothing in return. I feel like a servant in the house, I don’t know how to overcome myself.
Stop being a servant- they
Stop being a servant- they are not your children . Maybe you could get a job and find some hobbies outside the home which mean your DH has to do more- you haven't given us too much to go on here but these boys are old enough to be doing some stuff for themselves.
Welcome to the site- you will find good advice here.
I never get the jelous thing.
I never get the jelous thing. Ive never been jelous of the skids or BM in all the decades Ive known them. I dont get it. why on earth would would I ever be jelous? my life is so much better then theirs and I have so much more going for me...I alway think these jelous things are fake from people who wish that people were jelous who don't have as good as a life as them.
Welcome to the site! Maybe
Welcome to the site! Maybe you could tell us a bit more about your life and your step situation so we can discuss it more with you. But if you're feeling like a servant - that's a good indication you're being taken advantage of. May be time to step back and take stock.
Why would you beat yourself
Why would you beat yourself up because you don't feel for someone the way someone else feels for them?
Welcomd by the way. I hope that you find this to be a good place to vent, contribute and to pick up some useful advice from others who are living the blended family dream.
Take care of you.