My DH needs to step up to his family and the BM family!!
My DH and I are going to talk to the BMs parents tonight about their time with our kids. They have been letting my SS BM see him every time he is there for a visit. She is freshly out of rehab and has what is her fourth child that she actually decided to keep and try to raise for once. She comes and stays every time my kids are there. My SS has a cell (got for Christmas from MIL) and when I text him he responded to me and called me by my first name and told me to stop texting me! I mean it! He and his GP's have zero respect for my DH. My MIL has always run his life and our life and he wont stand up to ANY of them!!
Last night we decided during our meeting with the BM's parents we would tell them NO visitation for awhile since they cant respect our wishes and STOP letting BM come visit. We were also going to take away SS cell phone since he only uses it to tell GP's how mean I am or to text his BM 25 times a day. She has never been in his life and now all of a sudden she is back and trying to run me off. My DH says today on the phone that he is unsure that we should keep the BM parents from seeing the kids because it will hurt the kids and he also is unsure that we should take away SS's cell phone. He is only 9!! WAY too young for a cell and his BM is nuts and doesnt need to be able to have constant contact with him. I am so frustrated and fed up and I wish my DH would STEP UP and be a man!!!
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A little more background for
A little more background for you. I have been his SM since he was 2. My DH and I have a 5 year old daughter together. We split up for a year and are back together. In the past year my SS BM came back into the picture after getting out of rehab. My DH doesnt have the courage to tell them to stop letting the BM come over while my kids are there. She really is mentally unstable. My DH has full custody and she has never paid a dime of child support. She has supervised visitation but has never really been in SS's life so we never had to worry about it except for the two times during his 9 years that she came back.
My DH's family hates me and so does the BM's family. They now all of a sudden say I am "mean" to my SS. He manipulates them all and says I am mean. He also feels some sort of loyalty to this mother that has never been there for him. He has only had his cell since Christmas and it has caused so many problems. She encourages him to be disrespectful and to say mean things. She talks awful about me to him. I feel like he is the victim here and I should keep him away from the monster BM. She was raised in a terrible home and I dont want her messing with my SS or his head.
So the latest thing my DH
So the latest thing my DH says is that we are going to keep the kids with us the next two weekends until we go to our family counseling session. He also has decided we will in fact get rid of the cell phone. Soo glad about that. I asked if he would mention how the BM isnt allowed over there when our kids are there and he thinks we shouldnt demand that or itll lead to them lying and sneaking around for her to see them. Being a SM is definitely the hardest job I have EVER had!
I agree and I want to tell
I agree and I want to tell them to stfu too but it has to come from my husband. Unless he is willing to say something then nothing will be done. Anything I say falls on deaf ears. His parents and the BM's parents have always had weekends with our kids. Now that they are all trying to poison my SS against me I of course want them to stop going over there but at the same time I dont want to hurt my kids.
Maybe I am being selfish in thinking that their grandparents and the BM are causing my kids harm..emotionally.
I just want my kids to grow up healthy and happy. I dont feel like the BM will help my SS be that way. She is screwed up and is very mean and vengeful.
Amputate that poisonous set
Amputate that poisonous set of grandparents!!!!!!
Take that phone and don't give it back.
Nip it now or your problems are going to escalate to the kind you WISH you'd never see. You think it's bad now??? Let it keep going and you will find there is a whole new dimension of HELL that you didn't EVEN know existed.