Mother in law creates a bigger army of hate
Hi again. Im feeling so enraged. I thought after the blocking and zero contact with in laws that it was the end. My in laws all live over 1000 miles away and all moved within the last few years.
My sister in law whom is my husband's half brothers wife(also lives out of state very far) has kept in contact with me despite all the drama and hatred towards us. Shes told me a few times that she would like to not talk about other issues in the family and keep our relationship seperate and I thought that was so wonderful and mature of her. So that's what we did. She recently visited last week and she locked in lunch plans 3 weeks before her trip. She really wanted to see my Dd3(ours child) and hand made her all these doll clothes with a special doll for her. I thought that was so thought ful and kind and we all had a nice time at lunch!brother in law sister in law myself and my dd3. My dh did not go as hes alwsys had a weird estranged relationship with his half brother who's 14 years younger. They never fought but my dh was raised in a seperate state away from his sister and half brother with his father.
Anyway-long story short stepkids almost 15 and 17 have skipped visiting on and off for years-sd17 made up a false allegation that lead to cps in my home. I hired an attorney because I'm a pediatric health care worker and didn't need this nonsense to ruin my career or God forbid intrude on ours dd3 life. Ever since then my dh and both girls have barely seen each other. They have been so hateful and disrespectful and have given my dh altimatums on choosing them or me. Or just plain nasty and tell him he's a loser deadbeat ect. Just random messages to try to hurt him. He's been there for them from day one. I used to be heavily involved and once saw them as my own. I met them at 3&5! Anyway sd17 who uses her autism excuse for every bad behavior in life has on and off apologized but now back to being hateful. Refuses any family counseling even without me. She's recently told my in laws that we refuse to speak to her and who knows what other lies. Yes there was a point my husband blocked her because of all the hate mail but we did try again about 3 months ago and went to a lunch even with my dd3! Just nonstop drama. Bm could care less.
Anyway now my sister in law and brother in law who I just had lunch with suddenly blocked me after our nice lunch. I was so confused and hurt and couldn't for the life of me figure out why. My dh then said "it's probably my mom who got into their head". He unblocked his mom last night and said "I hope you didn't have anything to do with the sudden blocking of SIL and BIL after their nice lunch". And she said "they are adults and can make their own decisions. They are in the middle. How do you think it makes me feel that they get to see my granddaughter but I cant?". This is the woman who recently told my dh that the reason sd17 has problems is because dh "abused her as a child". This is the woman who told me several months back that I need counseling and was aweful to me. Does she really think she has entitlement to ours dd3 if she isn't good with her parents???
My dh then told her to loose his number and address and never talk to him again. Blocked her again.
I feel foolish. I let someone in on that side of the family. I never once discussed any family issues or even mentioned anyone's name. Never at lunch or any time we talked via text. I just feel hurt. One reason I'm so scared for my sds to see my dd3 is because I don't want to say "here's your sister's " and then they block and disappear again. My dd3 did mention the lunch to dh last night from a week ago. Hoping in time she forgets.
I just dont understand how my dhs family can be so hateful and literally build an army of hate and blocking.
Then my sd15 called my dh crying last night begging to see us again. Says she's sorry for not visiting the last year. Ugh my anxiety is up the wall the last 24 hours. This is why I love life without all them! I never ever have anxiety until one of them pops up with bs!!